Episode 14

14 | The F Word & Aggressive Ad Campaigns | A Little Bit Bothered

In this jam-packed episode of A Little Bit Bothered, the girls get excited over the new podcast intro and share Halloween parenting struggles, and rant about the eternal annoyance that is daylight savings. They dive into some A Christmas Story nostalgia (leg lamp shoutout!) and crack up over generational karaoke moments from the recent Marine Ball that Kelsie attended. Nothing makes you feel old like being on the dance for and being the only one that knows the Charlie Brown! Wrapping up, they bully Monica - per usual, highlight a viral Jason Kelce moment, and the ups and downs of election season—all while dropping a few must-read fantasy book recs.

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Ashley (:

Some people are trying to swear less, Monica's trying to swear more.

Monica (:

you

Ashley (:

It's her New Year's resolution.

Kelsie (:

I was just

Ashley (:

I love that. I love that so much. It really sets the tone.

Nicole (:

I love the intro girls. The new intro is fire. It really does. So welcome. This is this is our podcast.

Monica (:

you

Kelsie (:

I did it.

Monica (:

It really does. It's fun.

Kelsie (:

It makes me smile.

Ashley (:

I know we do.

Monica (:

It makes me feel like we just leveled up our podcast. Are we a little bit more legit now?

Nicole (:

I know it feels so official. It absolutely feels so, so, official. yeah, relaunch. We are the a little bit bothered crew. I'm Nicole.

Ashley (:

For sure. Yes.

relaunch.

Monica (:

I realize.

Ashley (:

I'm Ashley.

Monica (:

I'm Monica.

Kelsie (:

I'm Kelsey.

Nicole (:

And this is our show. There, yeah. Yeah, there will be a test. Multiple choice pop quiz. Anyway.

Ashley (:

There will be a test later. Don't forget our voices.

Monica (:

Right? Okay.

Kelsie (:

you

Ashley (:

I actually wonder if people can pick us out, like people who don't know us, you know? No.

Kelsie (:

Okay, so no, did I tell you guys about this? I was talking to my brother about it and he was like, I really feel like I'm getting to like, I'm learning who's who and like your personalities. And he started telling me about each of you. And he had you guys to a T. It's been so long since we had this conversation that now I can't remember exactly how he explained it, but he's like, Nicole, she talks a lot with you. He said something else like.

Nicole (:

I don't know. Uh-uh.

Monica (:

No.

Ashley (:

Mmm.

Nicole (:

I love it.

my god, I love it.

I do talk a lot. Me and Kelsey, we blabber.

Ashley (:

Yep.

Kelsie (:

But the main thing was talks a lot. Monica was the therapist with the very like thought out, emotional, like, you know, therapist answers, yes. But Ashley was the, and he, the way he, I'm not even doing a good job, but he described you guys the way that we like just always describe ourselves. And Ashley, he's like, she's like the realistic more,

Ashley (:

Chattie Cathy's got it. Yep.

Nicole (:

for sure. Yes.

Monica (:

Yeah.

Ashley (:

Like insightful. Yeah.

Nicole (:

Yeah, very, very well thought out answers from Monica.

Monica (:

I love that so much.

Kelsie (:

grounded one.

Monica (:

She brings us back down to earth in reality.

Nicole (:

She's the logical one. She knows.

Ashley (:

Was it a message? You should find it and read it next time. Does he still listen? Is he still listening to every episode?

Kelsie (:

No, I think we were on the phone.

Nicole (:

funny

Kelsie (:

I think so, probably. I haven't talked to him about it in a couple weeks, but I mean, he'll probably be like, yeah, hi, I'm here. He watches us on YouTube.

Nicole (:

Well, I mean, if he could peg us that well, then I guess.

Ashley (:

That's nice.

Mm-hmm.

Monica (:

you

Ashley (:

That's funny.

Monica (:

Aww. I love that so much.

Nicole (:

I love that.

Kelsie (:

But I think that means that we're getting our personalities across very well.

Ashley (:

Yeah.

Nicole (:

I hope so, I really do because we're just, when it's just us, we're exactly the same for the most part. I don't shut up ever. And you can see if you scrolled through our voice, like our chat thread, you would see that I, 97 % of the time send voice notes because I don't shut up and neither does Kelsey. we're usually.

Ashley (:

Mm-hmm.

Sometimes, yeah, sometimes you two get going and I'm like, I can't even listen to all these. There's no way. I don't have the time in my day.

Kelsie (:

Thank

Nicole (:

Literally, I'm like, I'm so sorry, please just ignore us. Like, you don't have to listen. We'll give you the cliff notes, you don't have to listen to all those. Like, get on a tangent, don't shut up.

Ashley (:

Hahahaha

Yeah, star a message if it's important, please.

Kelsie (:

you

Monica (:

right?

I think the funniest thing to me is that our time zones are off and so there's times where Ashley and I are talking later at night and you guys have already gone to bed. But then sometimes I end up being the one who starts my day later than everybody else and so I wake up and it's like the other day I woke up and legit there were 125 messages. I did sleep in that day.

Kelsie (:

We don't.

Ashley (:

Mm-hmm.

Nicole (:

my God.

Ashley (:

Mm-hmm.

Kelsie (:

You slept in a lot that day.

Ashley (:

Yeah, well, no, that happens a lot though. You're right, that does happen a lot.

Nicole (:

We were literally, literally, were like, where is Monica? Where is she? We were all starting to get concerned. Like, it was like noon. Yeah.

Kelsie (:

Yeah.

Ashley (:

yeah, it was the day after Halloween. We said you had a trick, yeah, trick or treat hangover.

Kelsie (:

She got a Halloween hangover.

Monica (:

gosh, yeah, I was exhausted. Yeah.

Nicole (:

It was literally like noon for me and Kelsey and we're just like where the fuck is Monica?

Ashley (:

Must be nice.

Monica (:

But yeah, I was late.

Kelsie (:

It was at least 10 10 30 maybe

Nicole (:

Well, I think it was I think it was 10 for you guys and noon for us, which now It's only an hour difference I swear

Monica (:

No, it couldn't have been that late because I had work that day so I think it was probably around like nine here but yeah.

Nicole (:

Even still, that's 11 for us. Well, it was.

Monica (:

true.

Ashley (:

Well now are you guys two, wait, how many hours ahead are you now? Only one? we're only one hour different now, that's wonderful.

Kelsie (:

Just one.

Nicole (:

Now just one, yeah.

Monica (:

Mm-hmm.

Nicole (:

That's what I'm bothered about today is daylight savings time. I'm not bothered, right, okay, I was gonna say I'm not bothered by this season's daylight saving times. I like it, yes. I love when we fall back because I do get that extra hour of daytime, which is great. I just hate it during the summer, the spring forward. I hate it because I'm like, now I'm losing time.

Ashley (:

you're bothered by it. I-

Kelsie (:

You got an extra hour of sleep.

Monica (:

Yeah.

Kelsie (:

It's the next one.

Ashley (:

Mm-hmm.

Mm-hmm.

Nicole (:

Also, as an Arizona, I just hate it in general. I don't like to have to change my clocks. It's annoying. Most of my clocks are, you know, like they change themselves, which is great. But the few that don't is very, very inconvenient for me and very annoying. And I hate it.

Ashley (:

Hmm

Mm-hmm.

Monica (:

Mm-hmm.

Ashley (:

Yeah, it's really funny because I work up on the like on the Navajo reservation, you know, and everyone thinks Arizona's all one time zone, but really Northern Arizona up on the res is a different time zone. And one of us is mountain standard and one's mountain daylight. And so they observe daylight savings and we don't. And it's so confusing trying to schedule meetings. If you Google like mountain standard and mountain daylight time, Google doesn't even get the right answer like half the time. Like it doesn't.

Monica (:

Yeah.

Nicole (:

and they have weird shit. It's not. Yeah. Yeah.

Monica (:

that's right.

Nicole (:

Dumb.

They- no it doesn't.

Monica (:

Yeah.

Ashley (:

It's Google is confused by the time zones in Arizona. So I find it very annoying too.

Nicole (:

I just wish, I just wish none of us would observe daylight savings time. Yeah, it's so dumb. hate daylight savings time. So stupid that like during the summer. Yeah. Yeah, it's really, it really is hard. like, to be honest, I don't even think Texas really needs it. Like, I feel like it could be the same as Arizona.

Monica (:

Mm-hmm. It's- it's super annoying.

Kelsie (:

It needs to all go away.

Monica (:

I love that we don't have it, but it's really annoying trying to keep up with everybody else.

Ashley (:

Mm-hmm.

Yeah. Well, even not having it.

Nicole (:

or it could be like the same as it is right now. Like we wouldn't, like don't spring ahead. Just leave us how we are right now and we would be fine. You know, like it would be okay, I think. And I don't think so, yeah.

Monica (:

Just leave us be.

Kelsie (:

Nobody needs it. Nobody does it made sense back when like farmers needed more daylight or you know, whatever but Now it doesn't they have lights. It doesn't fucking matter

Monica (:

Mm-hmm.

Nicole (:

Yeah, but now it doesn't make any sense. This stupid.

Ashley (:

Well, don't they sometimes

Monica (:

They have

Nicole (:

It's so

Monica (:

I'm gonna

Ashley (:

Pain in the ass.

Nicole (:

so stupid. I literally...

Kelsie (:

exactly. I lived in Hawaii for like, collectively, like five or six years. And it was fine without it. You never missed it. Not a day did you miss it. So it's fine. No.

Nicole (:

they don't do it either? see? There you go. See? And I think it's fine. You have your time zone. You're in your time zone. Why do you need to change your time in your own time zone? Like, doesn't make sense. It's so stupid. I hate it. I hate it. What else is bothering me this week? Since we last spoke, what else is bothering me? I'm trying to think.

Ashley (:

Mm.

Yeah.

Hey, I was in Texas last week and it was humid as hell.

Nicole (:

I, that actually reminded me that's what is bothering me. We're supposed to have an active fall severe weather season, which I don't like. We already have enough of that shit in spring. I don't want, I don't want, just leave my fall alone, please. Please leave my fall alone. Kelsey is getting it too. Because we're like in the same line.

Ashley (:

Ew.

Mmm. I hate that for you.

Kelsie (:

Yeah, it cooled down though.

Ashley (:

Is it pouring right there? Is it pouring right now?

Nicole (:

No, it stopped, but just in general, it's going to be.

Kelsie (:

It's very cloudy but it's not raining anymore. But it's cool enough that there's no way a storm would come through.

Ashley (:

It's actually cloudy here today too. clouds are coming.

Monica (:

Yeah, we got a bunch of rain last night

Nicole (:

It's still warm here. We're still in the seventies. So we have this weird like random like tomorrow there's weird active weather threats, like severe weather threats and stuff. And that's just like obnoxious. I guess I think in like West, like the panhandle, they had some severe weather today and they're, always a mess. The panhandle is always getting hit with something. I'm thankful and I live there, but still I just like fall is my favorite time. Leave me alone.

Ashley (:

Mm-hmm.

Yeah.

Mm-hmm.

Nicole (:

You already ruined my spring half the time because I get so anxious with tornadic activity that usually doesn't come near me, but still. Leave my fall alone!

Monica (:

are, we need.

Kelsie (:

I feel like a lot of things were bothering me this week and now that we're like down in it, I couldn't tell you. well, on a less, it's not very fun. Sorry guys, I'm gonna dampen the mood. One thing that's really bothering me this week, holidays are kind of a bummer for me sometimes and Halloween proved to be extra hard.

Nicole (:

Okay. Okay.

Kelsie (:

So for anybody listening, my oldest child is five and he is autistic and

I feel like I'm going to say this, but I feel like people can just misconstrue it. we went through infertility. Obviously spend a lot of time dreaming about what having children would be like. And I dreamed a lot about like holidays, like Halloween. And it just is not what I ever imagined. watching kids that are the same age run up to the doors excitedly and

Ashley (:

Mm-hmm.

Kelsie (:

collect their candy when my kid is not doing that and not caring about that at all kind of stings a little bit. And obviously I don't want to change my child. I wouldn't change him for the world, but it still stings to like have to, you know, kind of re align your expectations, you know?

Nicole (:

Mm-hmm.

Ashley (:

Yeah, that's valid. I'm sure a lot of people actually can relate to that.

Nicole (:

Yeah, that's hard. Yeah. Yeah.

Monica (:

Mm-hmm.

Nicole (:

that yeah, who's gonna say I'm sure that is every parent of a child with a child on the spectrum's same sentiment, especially around the holidays because holidays are overstimulating anyway, there's so much that's going on and then, you know, add that extra layer.

Monica (:

Mm-hmm.

Ashley (:

Yeah.

Mm-hmm.

Kelsie (:

Yeah, there's just a lot of like-

Ashley (:

Actually, kind of especially Halloween because there's so many kids like Christmas. Most people are by themselves or with their own family, like seeing the same people Halloween. You're like kids everywhere. And that makes sense.

Nicole (:

Yeah. That, yeah. Yeah. Yeah, Halloween especially. And then there's the expectation of like going up to the door and interacting with people when you know your child is like nonverbal or they don't hold eye contact or whatever it is, you know. So I think Halloween is definitely a little bit of a stressful one.

Monica (:

Mm-hmm.

Kelsie (:

Mm-hmm.

Mm-hmm. Yeah. I just read a lot of- Yeah.

Also, it's just really, I've gotten really annoyed this past week. This is another thing that bothers me, is that we have to like actively coach people to be nice on Halloween. It's like, remember if a teenager comes to your door or if they don't say, or if a kid doesn't say thank you, like they might be on the spectrum or like, you shouldn't have, if a kid comes to your door, you shouldn't expect anything from them. Give them the candy and move on.

Monica (:

Mm-hmm.

Yeah.

Ashley (:

Mm-hmm.

Nicole (:

Yeah.

Monica (:

Mm-hmm.

Kelsie (:

The fact that we have to be like, this, should carry a blue pumpkin so that they know they're autistic. No, give them the candy and be a fucking decent human being. Like kids don't need to grovel at your feet for giving them, like this is the holiday, just give them the candy. And then for the most part, like I'm sure that's not a majority of people. I've never gone to a door where someone was like, expectantly waiting for a thank you. But the fact that we even have to say that or that kids,

Nicole (:

Yeah.

No, just yeah, yeah.

No. Yeah, I agree.

Monica (:

Mm-hmm.

Ashley (:

Yeah.

Nicole (:

No.

Ashley (:

Yeah.

Monica (:

Mm-hmm.

Kelsie (:

that parents feel like they have to get their kids like a bag that says I'm on the spectrum like you should be you should do that if you want to but no one should feel like they have to that's so dumb

Nicole (:

Yeah, no. You can do whatever you want, right. Yeah. Yeah, I agree.

Monica (:

Yeah.

Mm-hmm.

Ashley (:

Actually, just for any kid in general, trick or treating is kind of like a very odd social experience. That's totally out of the norm of what you would normally do as a kid. Go up to all these people's doors, talk to all these strangers, take candy from them, the whole thing.

Monica (:

yeah.

Nicole (:

yeah.

Mm-hmm.

Monica (:

Mm-hmm.

Kelsie (:

especially nowadays, you know, or like don't ever take candy from a stranger except for one day a year.

Nicole (:

Yeah. And right. Yeah. Yeah, like when we were going, my oldest, she's also five. She was just like, she's at a point where it was really funny the difference between my five year old and my two year old. Like my two year old was just like excited to go up to the door, say, chick-cheat and say thank you. And that was it. And my five year old was like.

Monica (:

Yeah, yeah. Except for one day a year, and you can take as much as you want.

Ashley (:

Yeah, that's so true.

Nicole (:

finally aware of all the other things that were happening around her. So she was looking at everybody else's costumes and getting like kind of lost in that forgetting that she was supposed to like walk up to the door and like do the thing. And she was just like, you know, observed everything, which is I feel like the first time for the first year, she's actually really done that. Like, it wasn't just about going and getting the candy. was like, now she's finally noticed all the things that are also happening during this trick or treating.

Ashley (:

Hmm.

Monica (:

Mm-hmm.

Ashley (:

Mm-hmm. Yeah.

Nicole (:

so that was, that was interesting to like actually see the, difference between the two of them. Like the little one was just very excited to go up to somebody's door and be like, hello. And that's it. Didn't think about anything else. And the older one was like, wow, there's a bajillion people around. Everybody's in a costume. That guy's kind of scary. What the heck is that guy? You know, like was like,

Monica (:

Mm-hmm.

Ashley (:

Mm-hmm. Yeah. Did your

Yeah, yeah, we went out and it was there. Our neighborhood was very busy. And also us and our friends, all all of us were ninjas. And so there was nine of us. The ninja children were very hard to see in the dark on the crowded streets. I can't tell you how many times I lost Phoenix on top of him just being insane to begin with. Like he's just darting.

Nicole (:

Yeah, yeah, yeah.

Monica (:

Mm-hmm.

Nicole (:

my god that's terrifying. Yeah.

Monica (:

my goodness.

Ashley (:

everywhere. He's going behind people's cars, like up in their driveways by their garages. He's trying to go in people's houses. He's like crazy. And yeah, just very hard to keep an eye on. He was very ninja like.

Monica (:

Mm-hmm.

Nicole (:

That's so funny.

Monica (:

Listen, a couple months ago when we were picking out new shoes and my boys really wanted the shoes that light up, I was thinking of Halloween. was like, you know what? That's actually a good idea.

Nicole (:

He fit the part.

Ashley (:

Mm-hmm

Kelsie (:

Yeah.

Ashley (:

Yeah.

Nicole (:

That's funny. My oldest wore her her light up shoes and I was thankful for that because I was like I could see your feet because now this is a weird culture shock thing for me. Like moving here. I don't know if it's just our area or if this is typical for like all of East Texas. I'm not sure people don't walk they drive so there's millions of cars millions of cars up and down the roads and

Ashley (:

Yeah.

I hate that.

Monica (:

that's hot whiz for me growing up.

Ashley (:

Mm-hmm.

Monica (:

Mm-hmm.

Nicole (:

We're like, screw that. We park and we walk. Like, we're not, I'm not, I'm not going to sit in traffic to go up to somebody's door and get candy. Are you crazy? It does. It does. But so, but it also makes it a little bit more stressful and hectic because I'm like, there's literal cars driving and now I have to like have a actual leash on my child. Like I couldn't, you know, yeah, the little one was in the stroller the whole time, unless it was time to go up to the door and

Ashley (:

Yeah.

Monica (:

Mm-hmm.

Ashley (:

I think it dampens the experience.

Monica (:

Mm-hmm.

Ashley (:

Yeah.

Monica (:

Yeah.

Ashley (:

Yeah, the kids are running

Nicole (:

My older one, I had like the firmest grasp on her and I was like, you do not let go of my hand. don't care. Like granted they're going five miles an hour, but what if, you know, it doesn't matter. Like it's, I was like, this is ridiculous. Why? Why are you driving in a neighborhood that has cars parked on either side of it too? So it's just like, there's just, it was cars, just cars everywhere. It was just so stupid. And I'm like, this is not how it is in like, in like Phoenix.

Ashley (:

Mm-hmm.

Monica (:

It's still scary.

Ashley (:

Yeah.

Mm-hmm.

Monica (:

It's so stressful.

Ashley (:

Yeah, that's stressful.

Mm-mm.

Nicole (:

I don't like it. I don't like it. I don't know why it is that way, but I hate it.

Ashley (:

I see some people do that, but yeah, I don't like it either.

Monica (:

I think it's a small town thing though too because that's how it was for me growing up is like you drove around but part of it was because like the neighborhoods were kind of separated or there were just a bunch of houses where nobody lived. Yeah, that is kind of weird.

Nicole (:

Uh-uh.

Ugh.

Ashley (:

Mm-hmm.

Nicole (:

but see ours isn't. No, see our like where we would where we go trick or treating and like we live on the outskirts of the town. So we do drive into the town and we'll just park somewhere. But like the neighborhoods around the actual town are neighborhoods where people live right next to each other, right on top of each other. And it's like, why are you driving all the houses are right next to each other? Does it make sense?

Monica (:

Yeah.

that's weird.

Kelsie (:

I think that like based on my small town, I think a lot of the people are driving it's because they're visiting specific people like they're going around to the town everyone they know in town because that's what like obviously there are tons of kids in our small town that just they walk they just go door to door to to door to door but there's also people that look like my mom loaded she had maverick for Halloween and

Monica (:

Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm.

Yeah.

Ashley (:

Mm-hmm.

Nicole (:

Yeah, ours don't.

Kelsie (:

She just took him to the people she knew. Because he's, you know, he's two. He kind of cares about trick or treating, but not really. Like, he's not. So she just took him to the people that she knew.

Nicole (:

no, this.

I wish it was that. I wish it was that. It's literally teenagers, like middle school age kids and teenagers hanging out of the back of their parents' vehicles, getting driven around up and down the, or they load up a trailer, they load up a trailer full of kids and parents and drive around and hop off the trailer and hop back on. And I'm like, what? It's fun, but why are you doing it on crowded streets when there's kids trying to actually trick or treat?

Monica (:

Peace.

Kelsie (:

Well, that makes sense to teenagers.

Monica (:

Yeah.

Ashley (:

Mm-hmm. Yeah.

Kelsie (:

That's kind of fun though, but it is scary.

Monica (:

That is kind of fun.

Well, I think...

Nicole (:

Park your car, get out and walk with your kid. It's really not that hard.

Monica (:

This is one of those things though that I don't, I didn't expect to be so like paranoid and anxious about like before becoming a mom. Like pre-mom I think I would have been like, that sounds so fun. Now being a mom it's like the constant anxiety like where's my kid? Where's the car? Where's their hand? Where did they go? And it's so stressful. I was not prepared for that.

Nicole (:

Mm.

Ashley (:

Mm-hmm.

Nicole (:

Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. Yeah, I just... Same. I was not prepared. I also was like another thing that bothers me about Halloween. It's just holidays in general. This bothers me about holidays in general. The lack of participation. Like, I get it. You can't make people celebrate things, but I just feel like there was a time where people were excited to do things like decorate for Halloween and perv...

participate in trick-or-treating even for like things like Christmas too and just And I don't know what happened, but it was like we were trying to find like in our Little town there is one neighborhood that everybody has their lights on and you can trick-or-treat We were driving through some of the other neighborhoods to see No, nobody else because I was like, maybe we'll go over here this year instead of where we went last year and see if there's there's not a porch light on there's not

anybody even seeming to be alive. Like there's no signs of life. And I'm like, OK, so it's just this one neighborhood then. All right, cool. Like, I don't know. It sucks because it's like, Yeah. It's like you can't make people do stuff, but.

Ashley (:

We encountered that too in our neighborhood. was like a lot of houses not participating, which yeah, I kind of thought it was shitty too.

Kelsie (:

mean, granted, like you have to think a lot of them leave, you know, they're taking their own kids out. But our street is like that too. We didn't trick or treat last year because both, I mean, like I said, Mattis don't give a rat's ass about it and Maverick was too little. But I had my light on, I bought a whole bunch of candy. Not a single person even came down our street. Not even the kids that live on our street came to our house.

Monica (:

Mm-hmm.

Nicole (:

Yeah.

Mm-hmm.

Ashley (:

Mm-hmm.

That's so sad. Yeah, that's a letdown.

Monica (:

Hmm.

Nicole (:

See, yeah, and it's crazy. It's it is a letdown. It's like It does yeah, yeah

Monica (:

That is a let down.

Ashley (:

It just depends what neighborhood you live in. Some neighborhoods are super busy and some aren't. I think a lot of people were

Kelsie (:

It's weird. We have a fair amount of kids in our neighborhood though, so they all just went somewhere else I guess? I don't know because not a single- I didn't see a single kid trick-or-treating.

Monica (:

Mm-hmm. Yeah.

Nicole (:

Yeah.

Ashley (:

Yeah.

Monica (:

Could be. I think I've noticed a big trend though too is that a lot of people end up doing like the trunker treating stuff and like they opt for going out and doing that as opposed to the neighborhood.

Nicole (:

because.

Kelsie (:

junker treats and stuff.

Ashley (:

Yeah.

Nicole (:

Yeah.

Kelsie (:

I'm guessing that maybe they all go to like one of the richer neighborhoods in this town would be my guess. Because we're kind of

Nicole (:

Mm-hmm.

Monica (:

Hmm.

Ashley (:

Mm-hmm.

Nicole (:

And I feel like that used to happen when I was younger too, but like I also remember one parent stayed home to give out candy and the other one went with us to go get candy. You know what mean? Like I always felt like there was...

Monica (:

Yeah.

Kelsie (:

I grew up in the country, so I don't know.

Monica (:

Nuh-uh.

Nicole (:

Yeah, I mean...

Kelsie (:

And my dad never went trick-or-treating with us. Sorry dad, to throw you under the bus like that. But that was always a mom thing.

Monica (:

Yeah.

Nicole (:

Well, I feel like my stepdad, my stepdad, yeah, my stepdad often stayed home to be the candy bearer also. And then when I got older.

Ashley (:

I never remember, I don't remember my dad ever.

Kelsie (:

But he didn't hand out candy because we lived in the country, so he just didn't go. It wasn't in the honor of staying home to pass out candy.

Nicole (:

OK. See, and then when I got older...

Monica (:

Yeah, we never had trick-or-treaters at our house.

Ashley (:

That's very, that's very millennial, millennials dads. I feel like that's like my dad was not involved at all in that kind of stuff, which is funny because he called me this, this past Halloween, like the day before Halloween and was like, I'm coming over to go trick or treating. And I was like, no, actually I have plans, but yeah, but

Nicole (:

Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah.

Kelsie (:

Coded, yeah.

Nicole (:

because, yeah, because it's the grandkids. Because it's the grandkids, not you, not.

Kelsie (:

Listen, it's so funny though, because my parents now live in town and my dad is like, we're going to be the best house. Like they bought full size candy bars to hand out. They have every year since they've lived there. And it's my dad's greatest pride and joy that they hand out full size candy bars. Last year they had like 111 full size candy bars and they gave all of, they had all of them gone. Plus any extra candy that they had, cause they had so many people, but like that's like, now it's like his pride and joy that he's the guy that hands out full size candy bars.

Ashley (:

Hehehehe

Monica (:

my gosh.

Nicole (:

I love that.

Ashley (:

Hmph.

Monica (:

Well, especially because like

Nicole (:

Yeah. Yeah.

Monica (:

Yeah, because once you get a few trick-or-treaters who come and they get them, they're passing everyone else and they're like, you gotta go to that house and then you become that house.

Ashley (:

Hahaha

Nicole (:

Mm-hmm.

Ashley (:

Yep. You're

Kelsie (:

Mm-hmm.

Speaking of decorations, I have to tell you my mom is a little bit bothered, and by a little I mean a lot bothered, by my dad's favorite Christmas decoration and I'm so, I bet you it goes up any day now. Honestly, the leg lamp from a Christmas story.

Nicole (:

my god.

What is it? I was gonna guess the leg lamp! I was gonna guess the leg lamp! I actually really want one.

Ashley (:

was gonna say, let us guess. I knew that's what it was gonna be. I knew that's what it was gonna be.

Kelsie (:

When they got this new house, when they moved into this house after their house flooded, it has this huge like bay window in the front.

Monica (:

my gosh, I love it so much.

Nicole (:

Mmm, beautiful.

Monica (:

my gosh, if I had that house, I would be doing that too. 100%. I love it so much.

Ashley (:

I wouldn't.

Nicole (:

Yup.

Kelsie (:

and my dad's first order of business was getting a leg lamp. And my mom hates it. And I'm like, mom, you feed into the whole narrative of it. The fact that you hate it so much is what makes it even more impressive. Like if you didn't care, it wouldn't matter. the fact that you hate it. But people love it.

Nicole (:

The leg lamp, I love that.

Monica (:

She's playing the role.

Ashley (:

my god.

What happened?

Monica (:

She's gonna break it one day, like, no.

Nicole (:

I love the leg lamp.

Monica (:

my gosh, I love that so much. That is, yeah.

Ashley (:

That's hilarious.

Kelsie (:

People drive down the street, it's a dead end road and they drive down just to see the grand affair of the leg lamp in the window. Yes. Yeah.

Nicole (:

I will be so happy.

I love it. Fragile, yup. I love it, I love it. I love that. I want a leg lamp.

Ashley (:

my gosh.

Monica (:

Fragile. Must be Italian. my gosh. I would be one of those people. I knew that there was a house like that in my neighborhood or anywhere nearby, I for sure would be driving by and laughing.

Kelsie (:

People like ask dad, they're like, when is the leg lamp going up? And he's just like, any day now.

Monica (:

When is it going out? my gosh, I love that so much. I love that.

Nicole (:

that's funny.

Kelsie (:

Mm-hmm.

Nicole (:

That is so funny. I absolutely love it. It's such a niche like Christmas decoration too. That there's going to be there's going to be one day where nobody knows what the leg lamp is except for a few a few of us.

Monica (:

Yeah.

You shut your mouth, that will stay iconic forever.

Kelsie (:

Guys, speaking of that, my gosh, I was at the ball, okay? But it was the ball for, okay, so sorry for anyone listening. My husband's a Marine. We went to his school, he goes to KU right now, and he's part of the Naval ROTC. He's an active duty Marine. It's a long story. Anyways, most of them are college students, young college students. We are adults, obviously, and there are a few of us who are adults.

Nicole (:

yeah, tell us about the ball.

Monica (:

You

Kelsie (:

But for a majority of them are babies. The youngest ROTC kid there, because they do Marine Corps, they do the oldest and the youngest, they get a piece of cake. The youngest was born in 2006.

Monica (:

They're just a baby.

Ashley (:

Mm.

Whoa.

Kelsie (:

It was, okay. And, my God. So we were dan... When the DJ started, the music guys...

Monica (:

Shut up.

Kelsie (:

We were doing the Cha Cha slide, which I will give them most of the credit. They all did it for the most part correctly. It's hard to do wrong, but I need to know if you guys know how to Charlie Brown. Because when Charlie Brown came on the whole floor, when they said, and Charlie Brown, everybody stopped except for me and my friend. are both like, I'm 30, she's nearing 30.

Nicole (:

yes, that's my jail style.

Ashley (:

this was always an issue.

Nicole (:

I do.

Old. You're old now. What is the Charlie Brown?

Kelsie (:

We did the Charlie Brown and they all turned and they go, you could hear them say, what's the Charlie Brown? And they turned to see us doing the Charlie Brown and they're like, you're doing it. You know how to do the Charlie Brown. They were so excited that we knew what the Charlie Brown was. And I'm like, fuck, our age is showing so hard. I have never, actually was very proud. I was very, very proud to have known the Charlie Brown while everyone stood there and.

Monica (:

What's the Charlie Brown?

you

Nicole (:

The old people are doing it!

Ashley (:

You

Nicole (:

my God. Yep.

Monica (:

my gosh.

Senior citizens.

Nicole (:

The Charlie Brown. Mm-hmm. It's so funny. The Cha Cha slide is my absolute favorite. I made them play it at our wedding. I made them play it at our wedding.

Kelsie (:

Wonder about it, but I was like guys

Monica (:

That's one of those that like...

Ashley (:

I love the trash on the slide.

Monica (:

I do too. I do tend to forget the Charlie Brown though.

Kelsie (:

There were just.

Ashley (:

I did it for the talent show one year. Me and my friends did the cha-cha slide for the talent show. It was great. Everyone in the audience stood up and did it with us. It was wonderful. However, having no, not at all. No, no, I really had no talents. So growing up and having done the cha-cha slide like a thousand times, this Charlie Brown issue, I feel like I've seen that happen like a lot actually. People always freeze up on the Charlie Brown. So.

Monica (:

What a talent.

Nicole (:

because it's not really a talent, but it's just fun to watch and do.

Monica (:

Yeah. Yeah. Yeah.

Nicole (:

So many times, yes, so many times. Yep.

Ashley (:

I don't think it's because you're old. Yeah, I think it's just because people don't know how to do it. Yeah.

Monica (:

freeze up on it I always forget it once I see it I'm like yeah but then yeah

Nicole (:

I don't know, I just...

Kelsie (:

I just feel like for a majority of the older people, they at least like have some concept of what they believe the Charlie Brown is. Whereas like the younger kids were like, what's the Charlie Brown? Like how do you, like the look, I wish I had a, I wish I was wearing a GoPro so you could see the look on their faces when they saw that we knew the Charlie Brown. It was.

Monica (:

Yeah.

Nicole (:

Yeah, but the kids couldn't figure it out at all. What the hell? What would that even be?

Ashley (:

They're like, what's this song? They were shocked.

Nicole (:

You should have had Trevor filming you. my god.

Monica (:

It was your moment of fame.

Kelsie (:

They erupted in applause. I'm not kidding you. They were like, they know the Charlie Brown. Like we're some ancient wonder.

Nicole (:

This is the time where Trevor should have been in full, Trevor should have been in full Instagram husband mode and he was not. I,

Ashley (:

Ha ha ha!

Monica (:

Seriously.

Ashley (:

You should've, yeah.

Kelsie (:

my gosh, Trevor was drunk. He was not doing nothing helpful.

Ashley (:

Hmm. He wasn't doing the Charlie Brown.

Nicole (:

So funny, he definitely was doing the Charlie Brown.

Kelsie (:

He was, I don't think he, he probably is one of the millennials that doesn't know the Charlie Brown, but it was like, everyone took a little bit to like kind of figure out the Cupid shuffle, like a ton of didn't know the Cupid shuffle. Like, I mean, I even saw some like hesitation on the Macarena. I'm just, I just.

Nicole (:

Hmm.

Ashley (:

Mm.

Monica (:

you

Ashley (:

God, the chicken dance.

Nicole (:

That's a sin. Excuse me.

Ashley (:

I'm imagining Kelsey at the ball as a grandma, basically. Like that's, it's just stuck in my head now since you said it. You know, I know how you looked for the thing and I like, I know you're younger than I am, but still now the vision in my head is just a couple of grannies doing the Charlie Brown to the Cha Cha slide at the Marine thing. So.

Nicole (:

Literally.

Kelsie (:

I mean it's kind of-

Monica (:

Yeah.

Nicole (:

She has a cane.

Kelsie (:

I mean, if you'd have seen it. And then, it's even worse. Okay, so we went to get drinks somewhere else afterwards, because that party closed down at 10, and obviously we're cool, we gotta drag it on. So we went to this, we went at one bar, but we didn't stay there very long. We went to this, it said Jazz House, you know, we imagined like, you know, and it looked nice. They were doing karaoke in there. It was so fun, but it was like.

Nicole (:

With their walkers.

You're adults.

Ashley (:

gosh.

Nicole (:

no.

Monica (:

It was made for you.

Kelsie (:

It was like, babe, it was like 19, 18, 19 year old. It was just full of college kids doing karaoke to songs that weren't, some of them weren't, they could not even been alive when these songs were released. And like sometimes they didn't even know them, but they were just singing them so badly. It was funny. It was so funny. And then some, two of these girls did Kesha. They did We Are Who We Are.

Ashley (:

Mm-hmm.

Nicole (:

Just just babies everywhere.

Monica (:

ma'am.

Nicole (:

you

It's so weird to think of that.

Kelsie (:

And there was no enthusiasm in it. I'm like, why did you even pick Kesha if you're just gonna stay in there like lumps on a log singing this song? It was like, we are who we are. I'm like, put some Kesha in it, bitches.

Ashley (:

you

Nicole (:

lumps on a log.

Ashley (:

Mm.

Monica (:

Kelsey's version of torture would be to have to sit in a room with people doing karaoke with zero energy for the rest of our life.

Kelsie (:

Yeah, some of them did have plenty. But it was so funny because we were all in our ball gear and we walk in there and it's full of kids in how it's full of I say kids, I'm sorry, they're college students in Halloween costumes. And it's the day after Halloween. It's the day after Halloween. And the guy goes, it recover charges a dollar for anyone in costumes and like, great, we're in costumes. We paid a dollar to get into their balls attire.

Ashley (:

Yeah, or dancing with no energy.

Nicole (:

That is so funny.

A ball of gear.

Ashley (:

Mm-hmm.

Nicole (:

They're kids.

Monica (:

It's just aging you more every time you say it.

Ashley (:

That's funny. Yeah.

Nicole (:

We're the prom queens and kings.

Kelsie (:

But yeah, it was a very humbling age experience.

Ashley (:

Wait, was Trevor there? Was Trevor wearing his, what are they, dress blues?

Kelsie (:

Yeah. Yeah.

Monica (:

I'm a marine!

Ashley (:

They're like perfect costume. He's like, I've been serving this country for 10 years only to come to this jazz bar of kids and them to say I'm in a costume.

Kelsie (:

Yeah, they were all in their, they were all in their dress blues. We were all in our gowns. Yeah. Yeah. Everyone's like, great costumes. No, no, as you, it gets even worse. So two of them, so it was a cash bar. It was like cash everything. So they went to the ATM and these girls got behind them or they were in front of him. I don't know. And they said, can you help us? We don't know how to use this machine.

Ashley (:

no.

Kelsie (:

They didn't know how to use an ATM. They had to show them how to use an ATM.

Nicole (:

no. stop it. Come on. It's not an ancient relic. What is happening?

Ashley (:

What?

Where were you? What is going on?

Monica (:

No, that's like

Nicole (:

you

Kelsie (:

I'm telling you.

Monica (:

It's like one of those things where it's like if the country's survival depended on like 18 year olds writing a check, we wouldn't survive.

Ashley (:

we'd be dead. Yeah.

Nicole (:

Dead. All of us would be dead. Or addressing a letter.

Kelsie (:

No, but it's like, it's not, I mean, and it's not their fault, but like, why aren't we teaching things like this still? Just because we have the technology to be further along doesn't mean they shouldn't learn these things.

Monica (:

An ATM is surprising. Yeah, an ATM is surprising.

Nicole (:

An ATM, that's shocking. Literally shocking, you don't know how to use an ATM. Excuse me?

Ashley (:

ATM makes no sense.

Kelsie (:

Mm-hmm.

Monica (:

Although I guess like, mean Venmo is kind of like the new alternative.

Kelsie (:

But yeah, like most I mean, how often do you use an ATM? Really most people? Well, you're an adult with well, listen

Nicole (:

But I just can't. I just can't. I use an, I actually use an ATM often. I am an adult. I'm a 30 year old woman. I ref, yeah, I am 31.

Ashley (:

I barely ever. I barely ever. You're an old lady, that's why.

Monica (:

You're an adult.

Kelsie (:

I know you do. Well, I'm not shocked that you do because you have a very strict budget that you live by and it wouldn't doesn't surprise me at all that you would use ATMs, but

Monica (:

my gosh, this is like the...

Nicole (:

I do, that's true.

Monica (:

But this is like the equivalent of seeing my mom with her checkbook and like balancing her checkbook.

Ashley (:

Mm, that's what I was thinking too.

Nicole (:

going to the ATM. Yeah, that is true. That is very true. We are.

Ashley (:

where the old people at the grocery store are a check while everyone else stands and waits.

Kelsie (:

But even though I've never needed to balance my checkbook, I still had to learn how to do it in high school. We still had a finance, yeah, yeah. we had a personal finance class that we had to learn how to balance our checkbook, yeah. And I'm like, I'll never use this, but I know how to do it.

Nicole (:

Yeah, I still have to learn how to do it.

Ashley (:

Balance a checkbook? You learned how to balance a checkbook in high school? I didn't. No, I didn't.

Monica (:

Yeah. Yeah, I did too. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah, we did too.

Nicole (:

Actually, no, I did not. Yeah, I'm in the same boat. I'm in the same boat as Ashley. We did not learn that.

Monica (:

Mm-hmm.

Ashley (:

I always thought that would have been something they should have taught us, but they didn't, or doing your taxes or other useful things. So it makes sense. The kids don't know how to use an ATM.

Kelsie (:

no, we definitely learned that. Taxes definitely should be more.

Monica (:

Yeah. Yeah, I had that in my... Yeah, I had that in a class, same class actually. I had to take home a fake baby for the entire weekend. And like when they came back and my teacher scanned it, she was like, how did you survive the weekend? And I'm like, what do you mean? She's like, this is the most colicky baby I've ever seen go. And I was like, that explains so much.

Ashley (:

I did take home a fake baby.

Nicole (:

Ohhhh

I did not. I did not do child development.

Ashley (:

Hmm.

Kelsie (:

That's funny.

Nicole (:

Thank you for preparing me for my future.

Monica (:

Yeah, it was like it looked like a real baby though and like its head would go back if you didn't support it and it would like mark it as abuse. So you like lose points on it.

Ashley (:

Mm-hmm.

Nicole (:

those things creeped me out.

Kelsie (:

My school decided to cancel the funding for FAQs class, so after my freshman year we didn't have any home ec, which is like out of all the classes to cancel. I'm sorry, but that's dumb.

Ashley (:

my god.

Monica (:

That's sad.

Ashley (:

Hmm.

Monica (:

Not the one. Yeah.

Nicole (:

I had the same thing happen. My sophomore year, I went to like a brand new school and I kind of registered late in the year. So like the classes that I got to choose were limited. So I wanted to take home ec, but they didn't have enough room. So I didn't get to take it that year. So I was gonna like take it my junior year, literally as I was choosing my classes, they were like, don't pick home ec. We're getting rid of the whole entire program. I was like, you bastard. I was so upset.

Kelsie (:

That should be illegal. That is the one class that should be required all four years of high school. You should have to take home economics all four years of class of school.

Monica (:

That's so dumb. That's so dumb.

Ashley (:

Mm-hmm.

Nicole (:

I agree. Yeah. I was so upset. I was so upset. was like, are you kidding? Like all I want to do is bake some cookies and freaking learn how to sew some shit. Like, yeah, like come on. Well, see at my school that was different. You didn't do that. You didn't do that in home ec. You only got the fake baby if you took child development. That was a completely different. Yeah.

Monica (:

Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm.

Ashley (:

Mm-hmm.

Kelsie (:

I was like, I wanna take home a fake baby, please.

Monica (:

I loved that class. I feel books I got though that weekend.

Ashley (:

you

Kelsie (:

well we were too small. We didn't have any of that nonsense.

Ashley (:

Mine was child. We didn't have, no, we didn't have home ec, but we did have child development. And that's where I got the fake baby. But I'm having trouble remembering if it was a real baby or maybe it was an egg. Like an egg or a flower. Yeah, I don't remember. I don't think I had that. Yeah.

Nicole (:

Yeah.

Monica (:

Ours was like a combo class.

Nicole (:

A flower. had like, know bag of flour. Yeah.

Kelsie (:

I'm flat.

Monica (:

yeah no mine mine was a real baby and I had to wear a wristband that had a magnet so like when it would start crying I'd have to like attach it so that it knew I responded or whatever but I had to go home with the whole like car seat carrier and clothes and take it everywhere I went and the amount of looks I got at Walmart it looked real like unless you were up next to it like you had no idea it was awful though it cried

Nicole (:

Mm.

Hmm.

funny.

yeah, teen mom. You're like, it's not a real baby. That's so funny.

Kelsie (:

you

Ashley (:

That's probably really entertaining for your parents.

Monica (:

yeah, no, my dad was like, well, if this isn't birth control, I don't know what it is. Like it cried all night long. And like it got to the point where like, cause it's, you know, it's a fake baby. So whatever, but like it got to the point where it was crying and it was just like next to me on my, like on the floor next to my bed. And I would just like lean under and like put my arm under it and like get it to connect and like rip off the diaper and like attach it. I'm like, I can't do this shit. It was, it was so real.

Ashley (:

That's, yeah.

Nicole (:

See.

Ashley (:

That's so realistic to that's like not being an adult breastfeeding a kid. You're like here, take it. Leave me alone.

Nicole (:

That's so funny.

It was a rollover. Yeah. That is so funny. See, I did not. I specifically was like, I am never taking child development because I had two younger brothers at home, one of which was only like two when I was in high school. And I was like, I get enough child development at home. I don't need to fucking take a big baby home. No, thank you. There's enough children at my house. Thanks. I'm good.

Monica (:

Here's the boob.

Kelsie (:

Mm-hmm.

Ashley (:

Mm-hmm.

Nicole (:

And for some reason, only some people got to take on the real babies and some people took on the flower babies. I don't know what the merit was. Maybe, okay. Yeah, probably not.

Ashley (:

Because the real babies are expensive, I school didn't have that many of them.

Monica (:

Yeah. Ours were extra credit. You didn't have to, but it was extra credit if you did.

Kelsie (:

Mm-hmm.

Nicole (:

of course. Okay, then of course you took the baby. jinx. That tracks that literally makes so much more sense. Now she for our listener for our listeners, she just flipped us off. If you're not watching us. Monica just flipped us the bird. That's so aggressive for her.

Ashley (:

of course you took the baby. Little miss extra credit with her fricking baby in her car seat.

Ha ha ha ha ha ha ha.

It is aggressive actually, it's because we're wearing off on her. She's a very, what is it type, what do they call the moms? It's like a thing now. Well, you're like the white SUV mom first of all. Yeah, like very type A mom.

Monica (:

You are, you guys are such a bad influence.

Kelsie (:

Type A.

Monica (:

I don't know, I am but I'm not. Like I'm that weird in between. Yeah, I'm very type A in certain ways and then in other ways I'm like, I don't give a fuck. I just.

Kelsie (:

I can see that. You're not like entirely type A, but...

Nicole (:

you

You're the grayest, VV.

You're a gray SUV, Mom.

Kelsie (:

She said the full F word. She didn't say F, she said fuck, wow. Right? All in like the same like minute.

Ashley (:

Whoa, whoa. Actually, I think since we made fun of her for saying what the F, I haven't heard her do it. I haven't heard her say just F in a while.

Kelsie (:

You

Nicole (:

That was incredible. We got flipped off.

Poor Monica.

Kelsie (:

Oop.

Nicole (:

This is what it's like being friends with us, you just get bullied all the time.

Ashley (:

Hahaha

Nicole (:

Now that Monica's not combusting anymore.

Monica (:

I know, well, I just have to say.

Nicole (:

Literally.

Kelsie (:

Thank you, everyone.

Monica (:

Peace!

Ashley (:

the giggles are back.

Nicole (:

God, they're back. We tried. There was an attempt made.

Monica (:

There's times where I'm like texting you guys and then it happened. I'm like what to write like F.

Ashley (:

And you don't, you fix it. You're like, no, I'm a bad girl. She's got her phone set to like auto correct F to the real word fuck.

Kelsie (:

You have to make yourself right, fuck.

Ashley (:

Ha ha ha ha.

Monica (:

It's because I'm like, they're gonna make fun of me.

Nicole (:

Yep.

Ashley (:

That's hilarious.

Nicole (:

that's so freaking funny. Wow. We have corrupted you. We've corrupted her so much where she actually has to like think about it. She's like, wait, no, I need to fit in with my friends.

Ashley (:

Thanks.

Kelsie (:

you

Hmm.

Ashley (:

Some people are trying to swear less, Monica's trying to swear more.

Monica (:

you

Ashley (:

It's her New Year's resolution.

Kelsie (:

I was just

to say it's her New Year's resolution.

Ashley (:

Be a better girl.

Kelsie (:

Be a better girl!

My goal, my new year's goal is to save the F word in full one day, one time a day at least.

Nicole (:

God.

Ashley (:

That's too much.

Nicole (:

gosh, that's so funny. She's hysterical crying.

Ashley (:

Monica's going to need to have one of those swear, like a swear jar, except you pay into it when you don't say the full swear word. If you say F, pay up.

Kelsie (:

opposite. If she says an abbreviation of the swear word, she has to pay it.

Nicole (:

It's the opposite. Yeah. Yeah. F.

Sorry, James, we're corrupting your wife.

Ashley (:

Yeah.

Monica (:

You guys suck.

Kelsie (:

guys, okay, before we move on to the other thing, I have to tell you, this is like pop culture moment. Did you see the video of Jason Kelsey slamming the college kids phone onto the ground? So there was a, they were like walking the street and they're at Penn State and a lot of, there are, you can hear like, there are a lot of people following him like Jason, Jason, like recording, know, trying to get his attention. But there's like, there's a college student right behind him like.

Monica (:

I'm gonna use my headband.

Yes! Yes!

Ashley (:

I heard about it. didn't see it.

Nicole (:

No. I've been in the fantasy world.

Ashley (:

I've been in Prithian.

Nicole (:

No.

Monica (:

Mm-hmm.

Kelsie (:

Jason and he apparently according to the other comments like he had been heckling him the whole way up the road there that they've been following him and he goes He goes how does it feel that your brother is a? F-word gay slur And is dating Taylor Swift. Yes, he said the F word gay slur and Not the F word that Monica can't say

Monica (:

I believe it.

Ashley (:

Mmm.

Monica (:

is that what it was? Okay. Yeah.

Nicole (:

Not the F word that Monica's trying to say, the other F word.

Ashley (:

Mm-hmm.

Kelsie (:

But the other F word that's a gay slur, he said, how does it feel that your brother is at the F word, gay slur, and is dating Taylor Swift? And Jason Kelsey turns around, snatches the phone out of his hand and just fucking slams it onto the ground. Okay, well, there's a video where kind of like, so he slams it on the ground and then he reaches down and picks it up and starts walking away from the college student. And he's like, give me my phone back, give me my phone back.

Monica (:

are assholes.

Nicole (:

I'm surprised he didn't turn around and punch him directly in his face.

Monica (:

Mm-hmm.

Kelsie (:

Jason turns around and he looks like he wants to deck him but like his bodyguard kind of like steps in front of him But I mean I I think it was perfectly warranted he deserved it for sure

Ashley (:

Hmm.

Good thing you didn't.

Monica (:

Yeah. Yeah.

Nicole (:

Good thing he didn't. It is a good thing he didn't, but...

I feel like, yep, I was going to say justified, justifiable. He should get somebody else should have punched him just on principle.

Ashley (:

no, it was for sure. Yeah, that kid had it coming to him. People are so annoying.

Monica (:

Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. Yeah. Yeah, for sure.

Kelsie (:

I don't know why anybody thinks they can just get away with being an asshole. Like, you don't get to just follow someone down the street and taunt them. Like, you don't, no matter who they are.

Nicole (:

What is the point?

Monica (:

Right. Yeah.

Nicole (:

See this is honestly why I could never be famous because if I was if I was being heckled there'd be a brawl there would be a brawl I'm not a nice person really when I don't know you I'm only nice to people that I know and even then I'm not really nice to you so No No if you're bothering me, I'm gonna punch you like I could never

Monica (:

Yeah.

Kelsie (:

Yeah.

Monica (:

Well, it's just, it's one of those things too, where it's like, who are you to think that you even have an opinion about their lives? Like really? Like I know that they put their lives in the public eye, and so like everybody's gonna have their opinion, but like, who are you to think that you have a right to treat them that way?

Ashley (:

Yeah, that's...

Mm-hmm.

Nicole (:

Right, how dare you?

Ashley (:

week.

Nicole (:

but still they are also people. Yeah. Yeah, yeah, for sure. That's disgusting.

Ashley (:

Yeah. Mm-hmm.

Kelsie (:

when he was just baiting him, like...

Monica (:

yeah.

Kelsie (:

And I saw another football player that was like, was on the Eagles. Jason Kelsey is the nicest guy you will ever meet. He's the guy that will come sit at you if no one else is at your lunch table and make you feel welcome. So if you pissed that man off so bad that he did that, you had it coming.

Monica (:

No.

Ashley (:

Mm-hmm.

Nicole (:

Yeah, yeah. And like, it's probably just because he, you know, was talking about his brother. Like if he would have said, like if he would have said was saying that he was. Gaisler, he probably would have been like, whatever, dude, you know, goes like screw yourself, but it's because he was talking about his brother. I'm sure that's what you know, it really. Yeah, I agree. Good. Good as he should, honestly.

Monica (:

Yeah, I.

Mm-hmm.

Ashley (:

Mm-hmm.

Kelsie (:

Mm-hmm.

Monica (:

Mm-hmm.

Ashley (:

Yeah, how cute that he defended his brother.

Kelsie (:

They love each other, they're so cute.

Anyways, I just I just remember that and I was like, I we have to discuss this because I was like, fucking get it. Yeah. Go type it on TikTok. You'll get different angles.

Monica (:

People are ridiculous.

Nicole (:

One day, hope my eldest daughter protects her I hope. I hope my kids protect each other like that. Like Travis and Jason. They'll be just fine. They'll be fine. They'll be fine.

Monica (:

Yeah.

Ashley (:

I'm gonna need to watch the video. I'm gonna need to go watch the video.

Monica (:

Mm-hmm.

Kelsie (:

They have your blood. think they'll be fine.

Ashley (:

Yeah, I remember saying, speaking of that, remember growing up, there was my mom's friend, her son, he was like a really tall and like just bulky kid. And someone at his school was making fun of and bullying another kid. And the kid he was making fun of and bullying was special needs. And so her son, this big kid came up and beat the shit out of the kid that was bullying, you know, and and he got suspended from school or whatever for, you know, fighting. But

Monica (:

That'll be feisty.

Nicole (:

Good, as he should.

Whatever.

Ashley (:

His mom was like...

Nicole (:

So? He's doing the right thing. Yeah. Yeah.

Ashley (:

What am I gonna do? I mean, he did what he should have done. It would have been worse to know your kid was standing around watching that happen. You know, it's like a weird, like, proud moment, but also, like, you shouldn't use violence, but...

Nicole (:

Yeah.

Kelsie (:

Mm.

Nicole (:

Yeah.

Monica (:

Yeah.

Mm-hmm.

Nicole (:

If it's warranted, it's warranted. I was always told when I was growing up not to start the fights, but to damn well finish them. And I will live by that. And I do, correct. I do not, I typically will not start anything, but I will absolutely finish them. Do not mess with me. And I tell my kids the same thing. They're two and five. And I still tell them, you don't start fights, but you will finish them. I'm drilling it into them young. Like.

Ashley (:

Yeah, exactly.

Kelsie (:

Yeah.

Ashley (:

Mm-hmm.

Kelsie (:

And we know you do with baseball bats.

Monica (:

And we know you do. Frickin' A.

Ashley (:

You

Kelsie (:

Okay.

Nicole (:

My, you the older of the two is in school now and she's like, so and so wouldn't stop playing with my hair or wouldn't stop. And I'm like, you turn around, you tell him to his damn hands to himself and you'll be mean about it. Like you don't, you know what mean? Don't let people do stuff to you that you don't want them doing. You don't want to touch you. You have the right to say, don't touch me. Get away from me. We'll deal with the consequences later. I don't care. Yeah. Yeah. Okay.

Ashley (:

Mm-hmm.

Kelsie (:

Mm-hmm.

Ashley (:

Yeah, at some point they just need to stand up for themselves.

Monica (:

Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm.

Kelsie (:

Mm-hmm.

Nicole (:

What else is bothering us this week?

Monica (:

I feel like this is the episode that really highlights our age. It's all of like, how do you know you're in your 30s without telling me?

Nicole (:

I know.

Kelsie (:

Ha ha ha

Nicole (:

Literally. And to add to that.

Kelsie (:

Ashley.

Ashley (:

So, okay. I'm bothered. Yes. I'm bothered by two things. Wait, I was, I didn't have my mic by my face. I'm all tangled up. Okay. I'm bothered because I burnt my tongue, the other day and it's still burned and it's very uncomfortable.

Nicole (:

No, because we were like,

Kelsie (:

no, no, no.

Nicole (:

You

Kelsie (:

That's the worst. Nothing ever tastes right when your tongue is burned.

Ashley (:

No, nothing tastes right. My coffee tastes bad, everything tastes bad, my tongue's burnt, I was so hungry, I ate jalapeno poppers right out of the air fryer, and now I'm paying the price.

Monica (:

oooo

Kelsie (:

golly.

Nicole (:

Stupid.

Ashley (:

So very bothered about that. Secondarily bothered by how many texts and calls I'm getting about the fucking election, which when this comes out, is this election day that this episode? wait, no. Election day is Tuesday. OK.

Monica (:

I'm so over it. Yeah. No, the day after.

Kelsie (:

No, no, it'll be after the election is over. We will know who the future president is by the time this is over.

Nicole (:

No, it's-

Ashley (:

Excuse me, unless it's like last year where they don't have all the votes counted for several weeks. Anyways.

Nicole (:

Correct.

Kelsie (:

I mean they kind of had it estimated. I mean they guessed right off the bat though, even though wasn't official.

Ashley (:

They do be guessing, don't they? Anyways, yeah, so many calls, so many texts. I'm so annoyed.

Nicole (:

They do. The amount of sass that was in that. They do be guessing that that was very.

Monica (:

Ha

That look!

Ashley (:

Especially in Arizona, the the fucking voting situation four years back was so ridiculous. It's so ridiculous. And people are just so nasty and so dirty. And it's just like a rough a rough couple of weeks around this election.

Monica (:

Yeah.

Nicole (:

yeah, Arizona's bad.

Monica (:

It was awful.

Nicole (:

So bad, so bad. terrible.

yeah, we're definitely not gonna talk actual politics, but we are gonna talk the inconveniences that come with it because I agree, people are just nasty and they're mean. And the ads, I hate the ads this time around. Your voter thing is public.

Kelsie (:

Mm-hmm.

Ashley (:

No.

Monica (:

Mm-hmm.

There's mean.

Ashley (:

Lot of ads.

Monica (:

So.

Nicole (:

What is it called? Public record. Who you vote for is private, but that you did is public. And if you don't vote, your friends will know. It's like, that's the weirdest fucking angle for an ad. I hate it.

Ashley (:

Public knowledge, public record.

Monica (:

Public records, yeah.

Kelsie (:

This is so crazy to me. This is so bizarre. I haven't gotten anything. I haven't gotten a text, a call, an ad, and you guys are like, I'm getting this and this and this and this. I'm like, I haven't gotten anything.

Monica (:

Yeah.

I, those.

Ashley (:

Two texts, since we've been on this podcast recording this, I've gotten two texts about my ballot. Like, motherfucker, I intend to vote, I just haven't voted yet. It's not even election day yet.

Monica (:

Yeah.

Nicole (:

my gosh. my gosh.

Kelsie (:

The only thing I've even seen about like, know, hey, your friends know you vote. It wasn't like that. It was actually positive. And they were like, you go into that room and you vote for whoever you want to. And it's private. And if you want to lie about it, you can.

Monica (:

Yeah.

Nicole (:

Yeah, shut up.

Monica (:

I wish that's what it was.

Nicole (:

I wish that's what it was and maybe it's because

Kelsie (:

And I've seen multiple videos where they say that where they're like if you need to lie about it to get through the day with your family That's fine, but just know you can go in there and vote for whoever you want. It's not illegal to lie It's your secret. It doesn't matter and I'm like, wow, that's so nice And then you guys are like they're like sending you were getting like threatening ads like your friends will know if you don't vote

Nicole (:

sucks but

No. Right.

Monica (:

Yeah.

with that.

Nicole (:

Like vague threats. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. So, so.

Monica (:

Yeah!

Yeah, yeah, like they're gonna know it's public information. Did you do your job? Cause they're gonna know. it's like.

Ashley (:

Mm-hmm. Literally.

Kelsie (:

Cool, I would tell them if I didn't vote.

Ashley (:

Yeah, what they gonna beat you up? What's gonna happen? Who are your friends that that scares you? If that threat makes you afraid of your friends, you have a friend problem. It's not the ad. That's an issue.

Nicole (:

Literally. No.

Monica (:

Like if this is the...

Nicole (:

Yeah.

Literally, literally. Okay, so I stopped paying for Pandora because I'm a cheap bitch, but when I signed up for my Pandora, I lived in Arizona and I think this is why I'm getting those kinds of ads targeted to me. And like every...

Monica (:

Right.

Yeah, well yeah, your phone number is Arizona too. It is, yeah, Arizona's very aggressive in that way, but also it's a mixed state. And so I think that the ads are just being targeted in that way and they're very aggressive.

Kelsie (:

Maybe this is some sort of Arizona thing.

Ashley (:

Arizona's aggressive.

Nicole (:

They are. Yeah.

Ashley (:

And yeah.

Nicole (:

So the ads are just so bad. They're so aggressive.

Kelsie (:

I think it's because you guys are kind of a, you're state that flip-flops doesn't it? Like you kind of, they're not sure where it's gonna go.

Ashley (:

Yeah.

Well, I think we were blue last election, and I think that is triggering for a lot of people in Arizona because now we are. We are now.

Monica (:

Yeah.

Well, we used to be red.

Nicole (:

I agree. Yeah. Now, we didn't used to be. They.

Kelsie (:

Well, are you guys considered a battleground state? they don't, okay, I was about say they don't never, they don't really, like Missouri, maybe they don't push, cause it's like, it's sorry, it's red no matter what. Like, it not flopping. If it flops, I think that people will like turn in their grave.

Monica (:

Now we are.

Ashley (:

Mm-hmm.

Nicole (:

Yeah. Well, that's how Arizona used to be.

Monica (:

Yeah.

Ashley (:

That's what it is. Yeah, Arizona used to be red, like red, red. And then when it went blue, now it's like more aggressive because...

Monica (:

Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. Yeah, we used to be very red, and now we've had...

Nicole (:

Yeah. And that was it. And then a lot of people migrated.

Monica (:

Yeah.

Kelsie (:

I kinda wish Missouri was more like that, like I'd like to be kept on my toes a little bit. Like surprise me! Yeah, no I would!

Monica (:

Well, the other thing is like we have we have the border and so it's just like there's a lot of like key factors in Arizona that play a role in all of this. And so, but yeah, we had so many people come from California that now we're this like mixed state that we could go either way. But the ads are very, very aggressive. And yeah, well, and like, one of the things I'm bothered by it too is like

Ashley (:

No you wouldn't. No.

Nicole (:

Bro, no.

Yeah.

Kelsie (:

that's true. That's true. You have different factors, platinum.

Ashley (:

Mm-hmm.

Nicole (:

Same with Texas, too.

Ashley (:

Yep. Yep. Yep. Mm-hmm.

Nicole (:

Hmm. Yeah.

You're just aggressive.

Monica (:

We've had to censor the commercials that are showing up on YouTube or wherever, because if the kids are in the room, some of the topics that they're talking about, they are not censoring it at all. And it's been really inappropriate. Hulu, yeah, Hulu 2, yeah. The ads have been very inappropriate. And we're like, crap, because we're running for the remote to mute it, because the kids don't need to hear it. It's been terrible.

Nicole (:

Yeah, yeah, for the kids and stuff. Yeah.

Ashley (:

Yup.

Kelsie (:

I will say our Hulu live ads are kind of a little much, but...

Ashley (:

That's what I was going to say too. Yep.

Nicole (:

No, yeah.

like out of pocket.

Ashley (:

Yeah, us too. Yep. Yep. We've been having a mutem. They're off the wall.

Nicole (:

Mm-mm.

Kelsie (:

but also like ads just say any, like I feel like at least they used to kind of somewhat be, I think based in fact a little bit. Now they just say whatever they want. They like, they will say anything. And sometimes I'm like, okay, but we know that's just entirely false, you know? And they just say whatever because they know it doesn't matter. No one's gonna come for them. No one cares. And it's gonna rile people up and they just say whatever they want. And I'm like, this is, we.

Monica (:

They say whatever the hell they want.

Nicole (:

anything. They just say anything.

Ashley (:

Mm.

Yeah, just like, yeah, slander.

Nicole (:

Yeah.

Yep. Yep. On both sides, truly.

Ashley (:

I don't get that approach though because it doesn't make me feel positively about whoever like you this you have with dark commercial all this negativity I have to mute it if my kids are in the room and then you're like approved by whoever and I'm like fuck you fuck this ad

Kelsie (:

No, I'm like, ew, you're icky.

Monica (:

But that's the thing.

Mm-hmm.

Nicole (:

Yeah, yeah.

Monica (:

I don't think all of them are approved though.

Kelsie (:

I'm like, can you spend time telling me what you care about? don't, if you spend your time bashing another candidate, then I do not care for you automatically.

Ashley (:

Yeah.

Nicole (:

Well, we were talking about this in the chat, like in our actual group chat for our listeners. We were talking about this specifically, like I don't remember it being so hateful growing up. Like I have such a hard time. Since I have come of age to vote, every single election year has been rooted in hatred and it's only getting worse. Like every single freaking one since I've been allowed to vote has been so mean, just horrible.

Monica (:

Mm-hmm.

Mm-hmm.

Ashley (:

Mm-hmm.

Kelsie (:

I think

Monica (:

Mm-hmm.

Nicole (:

And it's like, I don't want to vote for somebody out of hate.

Kelsie (:

I think our older generations really clung to the privacy of it all, which I do think I teeter back and forth because you deserve privacy if you want it. I think it's important to talk about these things and be more open and we shouldn't act like it's a cuss word to talk about politics. also, now it's so, I mean, I understand why they were so private about it because if you can't be nice,

Monica (:

Yeah, they did.

Ashley (:

Mm-hmm.

Nicole (:

Sure. Sure.

Ashley (:

Mm-hmm

Monica (:

Yeah. Yeah.

Kelsie (:

I understand why you didn't want to talk about it.

Nicole (:

Well see, and that's the problem. We can all agree to disagree on certain things. When did that go away? Why can't we just agree we have different views and be okay with it and just move on?

Ashley (:

Mm-hmm.

Monica (:

Mm-hmm. Well, I think that's kind of... But I think that's kind of the difference too, is that like for my parents... But like...

Kelsie (:

I think.

People don't want to agree to disagree.

Nicole (:

But yeah, they don't. None anymore.

Monica (:

Well, yes, that too. But also, we didn't have social media. so conversations that happened, they happened face to face. And you weren't going to say something really cruel and awful to your friend, like to their face, unless you really were just that awful of a person. And so you could have the conversation, you could debate and then like, because I, I do remember my dad and like his friends, like having conversations that they didn't always agree on. And then they get to a point where they were like, well, okay, agree to disagree, let's finish our beer. And like, that was it. Versus now, everybody

Ashley (:

Mm-hmm.

Nicole (:

Mm-hmm. Yeah.

Ashley (:

Yeah.

Nicole (:

For no reason, right? That awful, right?

Hmm.

Yeah.

Monica (:

is just blasting their opinions on social media for the likes and it's not nice.

Kelsie (:

Well, I've seen a lot of people comment on the agree to disagree thing where they're like, I don't want to agree to disagree. Like if you believe in this, I don't want to be your friend. But my take on it is like you whatever, know, however you feel about it, that's whatever. But at the end of the day, I think you can still be a good human and be kind to other people, whether or not you agree with them. But also like talk to your friends.

Monica (:

Yeah. Yeah.

Yeah.

Nicole (:

Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm.

Monica (:

Mm-hmm.

Ashley (:

Mm-hmm.

Kelsie (:

and find out what they truly believe, not who they're voting for. Find out their true values. Ask them, do you believe that this is right or wrong? Do you care about this? Do you care about this? And trust that they're, because they might believe that a different candidate can achieve what they believe in, but you might find that talking to them, you align a lot on values. it's, mean, like, you know, they just.

Nicole (:

No, no, no. They're values. Yeah. Yes.

Monica (:

Yeah. Yeah.

Nicole (:

Mm-hmm.

Well, and I think that

Kelsie (:

With all the things being said about everybody, it's easy to just, a lot of people, it's fine that they can perhaps see a side of a different candidate that you don't see and they believe that that candidate can achieve their values while I believe that that candidate can achieve my values and like, just find that you're friends and you have common ground on the important values and stop worrying about like, I mean, don't stop worrying but like, find some grace.

Nicole (:

Yes.

Monica (:

Mm-hmm.

Nicole (:

We'll see. That's the problem.

Monica (:

Yeah.

Nicole (:

That's what I'm finding though is the problem though. That's what I'm finding is the problem though. People are saying, well, if you vote for such and such candidate, then you have those same values that that person has on a personal level. so now like, so a lot of the things like people are obviously saying about Trump, like if you're voting for Trump, that makes you a racist, that makes you a this, that make, you know what I mean? Like, and it's like, maybe I don't align with that part. Maybe I just align with other things or even for, you know, the other side. It's like,

Monica (:

Yeah.

Mm-hmm.

Nicole (:

It's like you're saying, maybe I don't agree with every single thing that they are as a person, but maybe I agree with some of what they're saying their fundamentals are, you know? it's, people are using that against people though. Yeah. But I just feel like people, like the whole ad campaigns are using that against people now. Like, if you vote for this specific person, that makes you a this, this, and this.

Monica (:

Mm-hmm.

Kelsie (:

think everybody out there is trying to do what they think is right. And it's...

Ashley (:

Mm-hmm.

Monica (:

Mm-hmm. Yeah.

Yeah.

Yeah.

Nicole (:

you what your voting says about you is, you know, law. it's like, seriously, like, come on. Yes, it's disgusting.

Kelsie (:

They're purposely trying to be divisive and we're letting it happen, I think is my big issue.

Monica (:

Well, and it... very. Yes. Yeah.

Ashley (:

Well, some people embrace it. Some people embrace the divisiveness. But yeah, it's just like you do your part. You do your part. You cast your vote. But then after you've casted your vote, it's you have to let it go. It will be what it's going to be, you know, regardless. And for us, like, I don't think we all have the exact same views. But how many times have we talked about politics and it's never ended in even the slightest bit of an argument? You know, like I brought.

Monica (:

Mm-hmm.

Nicole (:

Mm-hmm.

Monica (:

Yeah.

Nicole (:

Mm-mm.

Monica (:

Yeah.

Kelsie (:

Because at the end of the day, I said, I've talked to you guys. I know what you believe. I know what you value. And as long as I know who you are as a person, I'm not going to judge you on who you vote for if that's different than me, because I know that you're a good person. So, yeah.

Nicole (:

No, yeah.

Monica (:

Mm-hmm.

Nicole (:

Mm-mm.

Ashley (:

Mm-hmm.

Monica (:

Mm-hmm.

Nicole (:

Yeah, I agree. Yeah. Yeah.

Ashley (:

Yeah, you can still have mutual respect. That's what everyone should take away from this. If we do have our, you know, all the results are in and this is coming out two days after the election. Like at that point, especially it's we're done. Like our job is done. We've done our part and now we have to move on and you should you need to like give respect and grace to everyone around you.

Monica (:

Yeah.

Yeah. Yeah.

Nicole (:

Yeah, yeah. We've done all we can do. Yep.

Kelsie (:

And if you do find out that you don't value that you don't respect the values of the person you're talking to and you don't align and you don't really want to be friends with them, that doesn't negate your ability to just be kind, you know, like you don't have to be their best friend, but you don't have to like be mean or cut them down. Like human decency and grace could go a very long way in this in the coming weeks.

Ashley (:

Mm-hmm.

Monica (:

Mm-hmm.

Nicole (:

Yeah.

Monica (:

Mm-hmm. Yeah.

Nicole (:

No, for sure. Yeah, a long way.

Monica (:

Yeah, the divisiveness, yeah, the divisiveness and like the cruelty around it doesn't achieve anything except for further just.

Ashley (:

We need it. Yeah.

Kelsie (:

because it's gonna, I think it's gonna be icky.

Nicole (:

Hell, agree.

Yeah.

No!

Ashley (:

I think...

Nicole (:

discontent.

Monica (:

Yeah, and just it encourages more divisiveness and more violence and more just like all of the garbage that we're all so sick of. But we have to recognize like what role do we play in all of that? And if you're being cruel to people who disagree with you, like you're playing into it.

Ashley (:

Yeah.

Nicole (:

Yeah.

Ashley (:

I also think there's like another side to this whole thing where what we're seeing is the negativity and that's what's highlighted and like brought to the front on social media, on the news everywhere. It's all what's being brought up, but you

Monica (:

Absolutely.

Nicole (:

I was just gonna say that. Yeah. Yeah.

Ashley (:

as a person, like in a day and age where everything's at your fingertips, you have to be able to look for the goodness and like look for the light in the situations because there's a lot of people who feel this way, like that things are going to be what they're going to be, but I'm going to move forward with kindness. Like other people feel that way too. And that's what we should like be focusing our energy and our time on and not like the far left, far right bullshit. Like, fuck those people.

Nicole (:

Mm-hmm. Mm.

Monica (:

Mm-hmm.

Nicole (:

Yeah.

Monica (:

Yeah.

Nicole (:

Yeah.

Monica (:

Mm-hmm. They're just not the loudest ones in the room. Mm-hmm.

Nicole (:

Yeah. Yeah. Yeah, I agree.

Kelsie (:

Yeah, and it's like, it's not and it's not to say like, don't stand up for what you believe in. Don't be an advocate for your beliefs. But you can do all of that. Yeah, you can do all of that while having human decency for your people that everyone is scared. Everyone is fearful for our country. I think that would be crazy to say that anybody is not alarmed by the divisiveness. But we are sowing that every single day. Okay, we

Nicole (:

of course.

Just don't be an asshole.

Monica (:

Yeah.

Ashley (:

Yeah.

Nicole (:

Yeah, yeah, yeah.

Monica (:

Absolutely.

Nicole (:

I agree.

Monica (:

Mm-hmm.

Ashley (:

Mm-hmm.

Nicole (:

Yep.

Monica (:

Mm-hmm.

Kelsie (:

both sides, they are dividing us and we are just buying into it. We are just absolutely falling for it.

Ashley (:

Yeah.

Monica (:

Absolutely.

Nicole (:

Right. And I was going to say if we would just if we were just like not fall for it, things would be a lot different if we would just not let them have this such great hold over us that the media has and everything we would it would be different.

Monica (:

Yeah.

Kelsie (:

We were founded on the fact that people are allowed to have different ideals and we need to remember that.

Nicole (:

Views. Yes. Yep. I agree. Yes. Yep. It's just, I just cannot wait for, you know, I can't wait for it to be over. Honestly, if just the ads alone, I can't wait for the ads to be over.

Monica (:

Mm-hmm.

Ashley (:

Yeah.

100%.

Monica (:

I can't wait for it to be over.

Kelsie (:

I'm just nervous that it's

Monica (:

I think it's safe to say that like over the next week though, we will absolutely be hibernating in some books and fantasy to just disconnect because I'm so over it. Well, we have been, but.

Nicole (:

for sure. Yeah, I've been I've been so we'd be doing that because I've been so bothered by the outside world.

Kelsie (:

Yes, I'm going to... We will be buried in Akatar world.

Ashley (:

We'd be doing that anyway.

Yeah, the chat's quiet because we are deep in Akitar. my cousin, messaged me something, something on Instagram. And I asked her if she's read Red Mistborn and she said she was reading Iron Flame, the second fourth wing book.

Monica (:

Yeah,

Kelsie (:

Yeah.

Ashley (:

And I was like, my God, where are you in the book? I was like, you're gonna die. Like you are actually gonna die at the end. she, and then she messaged me just like an hour ago and she said, I finished Iron Flame. What the actual fuck? And I was like, yep, I told you.

Nicole (:

I'm actually gonna die.

Yes. No, seriously. No, seriously.

Monica (:

How do you know it's a good book? That right there.

Nicole (:

I can't wait for Kelsey and Monica to read it, honestly, because I just recently joined like a Facebook group that's like a book talk kind of thing. Well, because I did it because of recommendations. like, I'm going to need recommendations for what we're going to read next. So like, I like to see what everybody else is reading. so. I will, we both do. So that's why I'm like, let me gather more like I have a very extensive TBR for us. So anyway.

Ashley (:

Yeah.

Monica (:

my gosh, Nicole.

Okay. Okay.

Kelsie (:

You don't need recommendations, I have a whole list for you.

Nicole (:

somebody had put on there that they were that they were reading Iron Flame and that they were like ten pages in but they were having a hard time getting into it and I was like shut your dirty mouth like no I was like you better get into it because if you thought the end of fourth wing was crazy the end of Iron Flame is going to actually blow your mind like

Ashley (:

Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm.

Just wait.

Kelsie (:

Well, I actually had somebody tell me just like a couple weeks ago that they were having a lot of trouble getting into fourth wing and like I haven't read it yet. So I'm sorry. I don't know. But by.

Nicole (:

No. No. No. Yeah. No, me either. Actually, those two books were so easy for me to get into and and I'm not typically like that. They were so good. They draw you in. Draw you in.

Ashley (:

I don't trust him. I don't trust him. Who was it?

Monica (:

I don't trust him.

Ashley (:

They're so good.

They moved to the top of my, like, somewhere in the top of my favorite books ever read. Also, I've been meaning to ask you, Nicole, how your, did you listen? Have you been listening to Akatar on YouTube? How you said you found them? The audio, how's it going?

Nicole (:

favorites. Yeah. huh.

Monica (:

I'm excited to read them.

Nicole (:

Yes. Yeah. It's going well, honestly. just, just listen. It's fine. So.

Ashley (:

It's fine. You know how you have to, do you have to keep YouTube open on your phone?

Nicole (:

So on my phone, I don't pay for this or anything, but I can actually like swipe it up to a mini player and I can still use the rest of my phone and it'll play. And so that's what I've been doing. I've just been having to in a little mini player, like in a little picture in picture. And I will say the audio book that I found for a court of wing. No. Yes. A court of wings and ruin. That one's a little funky. A few things. They changed the narrator. So that was like that threw me off. I was like, well, that's a different voice.

Ashley (:

Mm-hmm.

Monica (:

Mm-hmm.

Ashley (:

Okay.

Mm-hmm. Mm. Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. yeah, that's rough.

Nicole (:

The audio on that one, so I listened to A Court of Mist and Fury on YouTube. The audio was clear, it was beautiful, it was fabulous. Same like channel uploaded A Court of Wings of Ruin. Number one different narrator, which obviously they don't have anything to do with. That's the production. But they added...

Monica (:

Hmm.

Ashley (:

Mm-hmm.

Wait, is that gonna be the case on Audible too? okay.

Nicole (:

And it must be, it must be, wait, no. So, well, yes, the narrator is different. I've heard people complain about it before. So I already kind of knew that the narrators were, yeah. So I knew that narrators changed, because I heard other people complain about it before. But anyway, they added, and I'm sure, my God, that's funny. I'm sure this is a copyright issue. They added like back subtle background music.

Kelsie (:

I didn't notice that it was different.

I didn't even notice.

Monica (:

No, you might have the theatrical version.

Ashley (:

No.

Kelsie (:

No!

Nicole (:

No, it's not the theatrical version. No, it's not the theatrical version No, this is on the YouTube on the YouTube channel. Yes No, they are like for the most part they are so a court of mist and fury is the same exact like audio as it is on audible It's the same thing. They just took the audio from it they put it on YouTube, but it's like not an audible channel It's like a one-off channel or something that uploads these these I don't know if they're doing it

Kelsie (:

I have not noticed music in the back.

Ashley (:

You're not listening on YouTube, Queen.

Kelsie (:

No, I thought- I know, but I thought you said they were the same.

Ashley (:

Mm-hmm.

Monica (:

It's today's version of limewire.

Nicole (:

Pirated. Yeah, it's like lime water. Yes, so but I'm assuming for copyright reasons No, stop it for copyright reasons. Yeah. Yeah, I'm assuming I'm assuming for copyright

Ashley (:

Yeah.

Kelsie (:

Ummm... Well, you're gonna get him shut down now talking about this.

Ashley (:

Yeah, because we're so famous.

Monica (:

Ha

Kelsie (:

This is gonna be the one that blows up. This is the episode.

Ashley (:

If we're gonna get Audible's attention, this is the way to do it. Talk more about your pirated audiobook, please.

Monica (:

Right.

Nicole (:

Audible, Audible, stop making me spend money on freaking audiobooks and give me a damn, what is it called? What are the sponsorship? There we go. so, so I'm assuming they had to, for copyright issues, make it a little bit different or change it a little bit. So they put background music to it and it's so distracting. It's not even good background music. I thought I couldn't do it. I thought I couldn't do it.

Monica (:

like they're they're doing what?

sponsorship.

Ashley (:

Partnership or something. Yeah.

Monica (:

Give us a brand deal.

Ashley (:

Mm-hmm.

Kelsie (:

yeah, probably.

Monica (:

I can't do it, no. I'll pay it, I'll pay the, I'll pay it.

Ashley (:

Okay, yeah, this is what I wanted to know. This is what I wanted to hear.

Nicole (:

No, wait, I thought I couldn't do it. So there's this one because it's a YouTube videos. It's like, you know, they only do like eight hours at a time or something. So there's like part one, part two. And then so this book has three parts to it for the YouTube audio.

Ashley (:

Mm-hmm.

Nicole (:

So part one, it was really throwing me off. But by the time I got to part two, I don't even hear the background music anymore. It's still there. But it just doesn't phase me anymore. So I'm like, all right, I'm in it. I'm in it. You can get used to it once you actually just start listening to it. It just doesn't bother me anymore. I don't even hear it. And it is pretty subtle. But I just thought it was so funny. And I was like, god, I hope the next book is not like that.

Ashley (:

I see how you could get used to it. Yeah. Yeah.

Kelsie (:

How many are there? Five or four? Five? Six? Five?

Nicole (:

I think there's five. A Court of Thorns and Roses, Mist and Fury, Wings and Ruin. I don't remember what that one is. And then there's Silver Flames and I can't remember what the other one is.

Monica (:

I think there's five.

Yeah, bye.

Then there's a silver one and the blue one.

Kelsie (:

I fully expect to be done with them all by next weekend, honestly.

Nicole (:

I also, same. Yeah, no, I'm in it to win it. I am barreling through it. In it to win it. Barreling through. I'll deal with the crappy YouTube. I don't know.

Ashley (:

my god.

Monica (:

Jeez.

Kelsie (:

I... I can't... The fact that I had to take a break, I listened to it till the very moment we had to start and then I intend to go right back to it like...

Ashley (:

I made a deal with it.

Monica (:

What are you winning?

There's no prize.

Nicole (:

So did I. So did I. had... Yeah, so was I. Yep. Because I just, ooh. We, I accidentally left you guys in the dust. We were supposed to do A Court of Mist and Fury together and we like kinda did. And then I went rogue and I couldn't control myself and just... I literally...

Ashley (:

I was listening to it right before you guys got on too.

Monica (:

Yeah, I was too.

Ashley (:

Someone's always going rogue.

Kelsie (:

I- Listen, once a book gets going, I cannot do anything, but like, all responsibilities go out the window. I have to finish a book once it's- once I'm in it. Like, there's just nothing.

Monica (:

Yeah.

Nicole (:

I can't stop! No!

Monica (:

I know.

Nicole (:

Out the window.

And this is why I love the audio versions, because I can still do all the things that I need to do. Nobody talked to me, though. Me too. Me too.

Ashley (:

Mm-hmm.

Monica (:

Mm-hmm.

Kelsie (:

I've been getting so much cleaning done since we started doing, I'm like, my house has never looked better since I've had children.

Monica (:

I have two.

Ashley (:

Yeah.

Nicole (:

I know. Yeah, same. Honestly, I'm like today. I actually rearranged my room today. That's why like my background is different for those of you that are watching on YouTube. My background is different because I rearranged my area because I was do I was listening. I was immersed in a completely different world when you guys were talking about like your Hulu ads and your YouTube ads. I have zero clue about those because I have been so absorbed in my fantasy land. I have no idea what's going on outside of that. And I probably would have never

Ashley (:

Mm-hmm.

Monica (:

Not much, the world's on fire.

Nicole (:

Even, yeah, I probably would have never noticed my Pandora ads if I wasn't trying to contain myself when I was waiting for you guys to be ready for A Court of Mist and Fury. Because I was like, I had to actually strap my hands down at one point to not go on to the next book. And I was like, OK, I can listen to music. Because I was like, what am I going to do with myself now? I don't have an audio book to listen to. So I was like, OK, I'll listen to music.

It didn't do me any good. just ended up wanting to be back in the world. a light lark.

Monica (:

See, that was my dilemma.

Kelsie (:

Light Lark is the only reason that Nicole and I were able to stop after Akatard. Wait for you guys. Light Lark was our only saving grace.

Nicole (:

Yes. Yes. It was the only thing grace and sky shades coming out in a few days. So.

Monica (:

See, okay, but this was my dilemma. That's why I started Layla because we were waiting for Ashley and I was like, I need, like, what do I do? I need something. And so I started Layla and now I'm behind. It was good. It was good. And it was a good one for Halloween. was, was.

Kelsie (:

But that was worth it. And it was a quick book. You're good. Yeah.

Nicole (:

Yeah, well, but now you're behind. So behind.

Kelsie (:

But now Ashley's technically behind because she hasn't read Layla, so it's fine.

Ashley (:

I haven't read Leila. That's a-

Nicole (:

Okay, well, but Leila's a one-off. She's, yeah.

Monica (:

Yeah, but all of you guys know what's happening with Tamlin and you're making all these like little hints and pissing me off.

Kelsie (:

It's fine. It's a great one-off.

Nicole (:

Bruh. Bruh. Bruh. Tamlin. It's a freakin' Tam Tam. All those stickers that say, yeah, all those, you know, it gets worse, babe. It gets so much worse. All those, all those stickers that say Tamlin is a little bitch are the most accurate fucking thing I've ever read and seen in my whole life, because he is indeed a little bitch, and I just can't with Tamlin. Mm. Mm.

Kelsie (:

You're gonna have to burn a little midnight oil, but you can catch up. believe in you. You-

Ashley (:

Yeah.

Monica (:

Dumb dumb you mean.

Tam Tam the Dum Dum.

Listen, I didn't trust him fully in the first book and I'm even more suspicious now, so...

Ashley (:

Mm-hmm.

Kelsie (:

My- I have com- I mostly hate him but I do have like a little bit of complicatedness in there that I can't talk about any of you with. I'll talk to Nicole about it because she's the only one that could possibly- but listen, I-

Nicole (:

I wanna talk back to him, damn. No, fuck him. No.

Wait, hold on. I just pre-ordered Skyshade, by the way. Go on your audible and pre-order it, Kelsey, while we're- just priorities, because it comes out on the 12th. Itching. Like an addict. Yeah.

Monica (:

While we're recording I need to purchase a book

Ashley (:

She can't wait to get off of this podcast and start listing to her books.

Kelsie (:

I have to finish these before Sky Shade comes out. Like there's no other option because I... But listen, I already forgot what I was gonna say, so nevermind. I know, I don't know. Monica, I know what I was gonna say. We really probably have to wrap this up pretty quick because we're burning up lot of time, but I need to know, you're the farthest behind, so where are you at?

Monica (:

Geez, Nicole, tell us how you really feel.

Nicole (:

Anyway. Sorry, don't, you were talking about Tamlin. I can't stand that bitch. I hate him. He's a bitch.

Monica (:

the end of

Nicole (:

we really do. my gosh.

Monica (:

Yeah. I am in like chapter either like right at the end of chapter 16 or beginning of 17. But she, yeah, spoiler. it's not really a big one. mean, yeah. Yeah. She just went and had dinner with all of Rhysand friends and like decided, yeah. So I just met the whole like inner circle and all of them. So.

Ashley (:

What's happening?

Nicole (:

Yeah, please tell me what's happening, because I can't remember.

Kelsie (:

Spoiler, spoiler.

I mean, but I mean if you haven't read like

Nicole (:

Whatever, just.

Ashley (:

the inner circle.

Nicole (:

the inner circle. the inner circle. our friends, our friends. I love our friends so, much.

Kelsie (:

yeah.

Ashley (:

it starts getting, it started getting like frustrating for me from that point until the point I'm at now, like waiting, waiting, waiting.

Kelsie (:

Yeah. Mm-hmm. Yeah.

Nicole (:

Yeah, the waiting, the tension.

Monica (:

Yeah, no, I'm already frustrated because like I feel

Kelsie (:

You feel sexual frustration?

Nicole (:

I do. I do. Just thinking about those episodes and just those chapters. Jesus Lord.

Kelsie (:

a lot of sexual frustration. was like, come on now. How much buildup are we going to get?

Ashley (:

Hahaha

Monica (:

Not what I was going to say, but...

Ashley (:

It's...

No, it was annoying for me how long it took Feyre to like trust rhysand it was getting annoying to me. Like, obviously he's he's caring for you.

Nicole (:

my gosh. I want to say something and I can't say anything because Minnika is so far behind. Okay, sorry. It does take her a long time. It's very aggravating. It's very frustrating.

Kelsie (:

Mm-hmm.

Monica (:

Yeah.

Kelsie (:

It did take her a long time. was like, it is infuriating when any book or movie I watch where the person is just not giving in, when we all know that the other person is good, it's like, just fucking give it up already, you little bitch.

Monica (:

Sorry.

Ashley (:

so stubborn. Blech.

Monica (:

Okay.

Yeah, what I was going to say is I'm frustrated because I can feel like that so much is about to go down and I just want to know what it is. So not the sexual tension, but okay. the other thing, the other thing that is driving me crazy with the narrator, because I'm doing like a read along with the narrator.

Nicole (:

AHHHH

yeah.

Kelsie (:

yeah.

well. Yeah.

Nicole (:

Tension in general. All kinds, it's all kinds of tension. Lots of tension.

Kelsie (:

Mm-hmm, me too.

Nicole (:

Mm.

Monica (:

is depending on which character is talking. Do you remember when I was in the first book where I had spelled out Farrah's name as like Farrah Fawcett? It's because I realized that when Tamlyn is talking, he calls her more of like Farrah versus other characters say Fae-rah.

Ashley (:

Mm-hmm.

Nicole (:

Yeah, Feyre.

Kelsie (:

Mm-hmm.

Yeah.

Ashley (:

Mm.

Nicole (:

Because she puts like, yeah, because she'll put like a little accent on certain characters. I know.

Kelsie (:

Yeah.

Monica (:

but it's driving me crazy, because now that I've noticed what it is and where that came from, I'm like, it's not Farah, it's Fera.

Ashley (:

I didn't notice that.

Nicole (:

Mm-hmm.

Feyre! That's co- and more reason to hate him. More reason to hate him. Because nobody matters except for Reesand. I'm sorry. Feyre, darling. If I could just hear that in my ear for the rest of my life, I'd be fine. It's not even my own name.

Kelsie (:

That's probably just another subtle like Tamlin. Yeah.

Ashley (:

Yup, that's what I was thinking too.

Monica (:

Huh. Okay. Okay.

Yes, favorite darling.

Yeah.

But I will say now that I'm like reading, it's it's Damon Salvatore in my head. Like you're right, it absolutely is. He is, he is giving Damon. But I'm enjoying it. So I just need to catch up.

Nicole (:

yes, yeah yeah yeah yeah, I know, is Damon, Reese and gives Damon vibes.

Ashley (:

Mm-hmm. Well, we got to wrap up this podcast so you can get back to listening.

Nicole (:

Hmm.

Monica (:

Mm-hmm. I will be doing that. I have an appointment and I will just be sitting there listening to it. So

Nicole (:

I can't wait.

Ashley (:

Perfect! Okay, well...

Nicole (:

Well, that's a wrap. So if you've made it to the end, congratulations. You're officially as bothered as we are.

Monica (:

Yes, we will see you guys

Ashley (:

Mm-hmm.

Monica (:

Mm-hmm. We'll see you guys next week when hopefully all of the madness of the world has died down

Ashley (:

Thanks for being here.

Yes, hopefully. Fingers crossed.

Nicole (:

Mm.

Kelsie (:

you

Monica (:

All right, well don't forget to like, rate, follow, and subscribe, and all of the things, whatever other little, and I lost it. Yes, all the things.

Nicole (:

should.

We haven't said that in a while. My gosh. This outro is a menagerie. OK, bye. We love you. Bye.

Ashley (:

comment, share with your friends, all the stuff.

Okay, thanks for being here. Bye.

Monica (:

Bye!

Kelsie (:

Bye!

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