26 | The Audacity | A Little Bit Bothered

Kelsie (: 00:00

You were probably a bad girl and didn't listen to my aftercare instructions, huh? LOL. Someone needs a spanking.

Nicole (: 00:48

Are we bothered? Fuck yes, we're bothered all the time. Where are your bothered bitches? I'm Nicole. I'm Nicole. ⁓ You don't know my name bitch.

Monica (: 00:49

We are.

Kelsie (: 00:49

We're bothered.

Ashley (: 00:51

bothered.

Kelsie (: 00:51

We're bothered.

We are... What? Say it again!

Ashley (: 00:55

Hello.

What? Do you not know her name? ⁓

I'm Ashley.

Kelsie (: 01:07

every time.

Kelsey.

Ashley (: 01:11

Beautiful. Excellent.

Monica (: 01:12

One of these days

we will get that down and it will be smooth. But you know what? It's fine. It's kind of our thing.

Nicole (: 01:15

We'll get it right. We'll get it eventually.

Chaos is our brand, okay? Just deal with it. We've been actually worrying a lot about what our brand is lately. It's fucking chaos is what it is. So we can stop worrying guys. I figured it out. It's chaos.

Kelsie (: 01:21

You

Ashley (: 01:22

Yeah.

Kelsie (: 01:23

It is. It is.

Monica (: 01:32

Just, yeah, chaos.

Kelsie (: 01:33

I mean, I

I think

we know what it is. We're just not sure how to market it.

Nicole (: 01:42

that a market chaos? ⁓

Monica (: 01:43

Right?

Ashley (: 01:47

It should come naturally to us, I feel.

Nicole (: 01:48

I should have...

Monica (: 01:49

right? I mean if we had just like cameras like some kind of reality TV show would come across immediately but...

Ashley (: 01:57

Yes,

Nicole (: 01:57

Yeah,

no kidding.

Ashley (: 01:58

yes it would.

Kelsie (: 02:00

Is anyone bothered by anything this week?

Nicole (: 02:04

Um, yeah, I have a blister. Well, I had a blister. popped.

Kelsie (: 02:07

You

Tch.

Ashley (: 02:13

Stop, stop, stop, stop.

you

Nicole (: 02:19

Yeah, a blister bitch, it hurt!

Monica (: 02:20

haha

Nicole (: 02:23

No, because look at it! No! Fuck off! I was raking, okay?

Ashley (: 02:24

just asked a like a five year old. ⁓ yeah, I have a blister.

Kelsie (: 02:26

Yeah.

Monica (: 02:30

I'm a boo boo.

Kelsie (: 02:30

I'm an owie.

Ashley (: 02:33

Well, I had an owie. It's like when a kid's upset that they got hurt like three weeks ago.

Nicole (: 02:37

do.

am upset. I have an owie. Because it's in a stupid spot because I was raking and I don't know how I was holding this rake but like, you guys can use this? You guys? Yeah! It's a fucking wound. Bitch, I actually don't know. I actually, okay no. No, I was holding it like this. So I was holding this like this and I was going like this. So my thumb was actually on the bottom of the rake.

Ashley (: 02:42

⁓ you poor thing.

⁓ ew, do see- my god! How are you holding a rake with the top of your hand?

Monica (: 02:52

Yeah.

Ashley (: 02:59

I don't think you're qualified to use a rake. That is crazy.

Nicole (: 03:10

and it was just rubbing, the rake was just rubbing on my fucking bum like that. I'm like pulling on my skin. And I was like fucking out and it's also really humid and like I already have fucking hyperhidrosis where my hands are always fucking wet. And so my skin just literally like ripped off. I was like cool, cool. So yeah, I have an owie bitch, okay? And I'm deep into my luteal phase.

Ashley (: 03:23

Mm-hmm.

Okay, okay, she has an owie.

Nicole (: 03:36

deep into my luteal phase. Like I'm getting my period any day and I'm just mean. And that's what it is. I'm I'm bothered. Everything is bothering me. That'll do it.

Ashley (: 03:36

Mmm.

Monica (: 03:37

Hmm.

that'll do it. mm-hmm. that that'll do it. I

Ashley (: 03:40

That is bothersome.

That'll do it.

Monica (: 03:47

that's like one more reason why I feel like we all need to live closer to so that we can sync up because one of us is always lutealing.

Nicole (: 03:54

lutealing

Monica (: 03:56

It's kind of a problem.

Nicole (: 03:59

Except for our divine creator, she's not loodoo-ing anytime soon.

Kelsie (: 04:03

I was about to say I've been looty old lately.

Monica (: 04:04

That's true.

Ashley (: 04:04

Yeah. Wait,

you know what I was gonna ask you? Did your cat have babies or what?

Monica (: 04:11

yeah!

Kelsie (: 04:12

No, but she's got to be ready to pop any day now. She is like, she is like triple wide. She is. She's, I don't think so. She's very, she just keeps getting fatter. And also, I, I actually think that you could kind of feel like, you know, like the line of nipples, how it kind like the whole line like fills up a little bit. I almost felt like I could feel that. And I was like, well, maybe she's starting to milk, which I

Ashley (: 04:15

Okay.

Nicole (: 04:18

I'm a triple white. ⁓

Ashley (: 04:18

Okay, so she's really pregnant.

This was not a mistake.

Mm-hmm.

Kelsie (: 04:39

I don't know if this is true, but I read online that if they start to fill up, then that means they're like days away. So, but I feel like she got nowhere else to grow. So she's got, they've got to come out pretty soon. No, I can't. It's very firm. But like, I don't feel any movement, but I don't, she doesn't.

Ashley (: 04:45

Mmm.

Nicole (: 04:45

Ew.

Can you feel the kittens?

Monica (: 04:51

or thing.

Ashley (: 04:55

They're probably so jammed in there.

Nicole (: 04:56

Hmm.

Hmm,

Ashley (: 05:02

I

don't know if they don't probably don't have room for the kittens to move when they got a whole litter in their tiny little bellies.

Nicole (: 05:02

interesting.

Kelsie (: 05:06

too much weight.

Nicole (: 05:07

Maybe. Maybe.

Kelsie (: 05:08

And I may just be not feeling at the right time, you know, maybe they're just, maybe they're just like human babies and they just like people touch them and they're like, friend.

Ashley (: 05:11

Mm-hmm.

Nicole (: 05:13

Yeah.

Ashley (: 05:15

Yeah.

Nicole (: 05:16

Stop it! Yeah.

Ashley (: 05:17

Yeah. Possum.

Monica (: 05:18

Free spray.

Kelsie (: 05:20

Don't let anybody feel you.

only torture mom. I myself felt the hiccups in my butthole this morning so that's things no one tells you about pregnancy.

Nicole (: 05:25

⁓ Literally.

Ashley (: 05:26

Mm, yeah.

⁓

No one told me that, but I also never experienced that, I don't think, so...

Monica (: 05:37

Yeah,

Kelsie (: 05:37

⁓ well,

I get that. I think it's just cause mine, my children are very low. Like they're always low from the very get go. So like, I feel a lot in the booty hole.

Monica (: 05:38

I didn't have that one. had, I felt plenty of hiccups, but not my butt.

Nicole (: 05:42

I'm trying to remember!

Ashley (: 05:46

Mm.

Nicole (: 05:52

I guess. In

Monica (: 05:53

Yeah.

Nicole (: 05:54

the video!

Ashley (: 05:54

you

Kelsie (: 05:57

and the cervix. Yeah.

Monica (: 05:57

I don't envy that, so...

Nicole (: 06:01

Is that the title of the episode? I feel a lot in the booty hole.

Monica (: 06:04

gosh, no.

Kelsie (: 06:06

I feel

Ashley (: 06:06

I

don't think, I don't know that that's gonna get us the right press.

Kelsie (: 06:06

a lot in the booty hole. We have a lot of titles that perhaps have the word butthole in them so we should maybe skip that.

Monica (: 06:09

No.

Nicole (: 06:14

⁓

Monica (: 06:14

Yeah, we might need to move in a different direction.

Nicole (: 06:18

We might need a new niche you guys we keep coming back to butt holes

Kelsie (: 06:21

Yeah.

I'll stop talking about butt holes. Sorry.

Ashley (: 06:24

Yeah.

Nicole (: 06:27

No, actually, no, it's funny. I'm a 12 year old boy.

Kelsie (: 06:33

So anyways, no kittens yet.

Nicole (: 06:35

Okay, no kittens.

⁓ that's good. Any day.

Ashley (: 06:37

Okay, any day now. We'll be awaiting an update.

Kelsie (: 06:40

I just hope she gives birth in the daytime. She needs to have lunchtime babies as well.

Nicole (: 06:42

Yeah.

Yeah, yeah, lunchtime babies. It's a thing. Lunchtime babies are a thing. What else? Who else is bothered by things? Oh, I have another thing that was bothering me. But Kelsey put it to bed, so I'm not that bothered anymore. The Annabelle doll was lost, but apparently she's been found. That was was bothering me.

Monica (: 06:45

lunch like babies.

Ashley (: 06:46

Yeah.

Kelsie (: 07:05

Apparently she was perhaps

never lost. I don't know how the rumor got started, but something fishy's going on. That's all I know.

Nicole (: 07:10

I just,

I just, you know, you guys know how I feel about it. I don't think she should be on tour. I think it's fucking weird. Stop it. You know.

Kelsie (: 07:15

It's like, but

why were they all on this tour and then all of sudden they just took her back? And they're like, she'll, we're gonna, I don't know, she's sus. They like took her back to the museum.

Nicole (: 07:20

Yeah, I don't know. Some parts.

Kelsie (: 07:28

And I don't.

Ashley (: 07:28

It would have had

to be something really bad for the people that took her out knowing something could happen to bring her back early.

Nicole (: 07:31

Well, I mean...

Now I haven't seen any footage of her on tour because I refuse to actually look at it that's why I like I heard that she was missing and then I didn't really know she was found or like what the actual situation is but

Kelsie (: 07:38

I don't know.

Nicole (: 07:53

While they've been taking her on tour, they taking the whole box or are they physically taking her out of the box? Okay, good. All right, I'm okay. That makes more sense. That at least puts me a little bit at ease because I hate it.

Kelsie (: 07:58

No, I think she remains in the box.

Yeah, I believe

Ashley (: 08:06

She can't get

out of the box.

Kelsie (: 08:07

the whole box is being moved at all times. But it does just make you wonder like, why? Where did the missing rumor come from? Why did they take her back all of a sudden and then like, we are gonna go to this place. But like, why did you not? Why did you go home?

Nicole (: 08:09

Okay,

Yeah, who started it?

Ashley (: 08:23

Maybe they're just trying to get more attention on the tour.

Monica (: 08:24

Publicity? Yeah,

Kelsie (: 08:25

Is she? Maybe.

Monica (: 08:26

just needing publicity.

Kelsie (: 08:26

I don't think they need anymore attention. She burned down a whole fucking plantation. The attention is there. I don't know that they have to do much more.

Nicole (: 08:26

Maybe.

I mean, and and and: 1010

Ashley (: 08:34

You

Nicole (: 08:37

like convicts escaped from the prison over there the same time that the plantation was on fire the same time that Annabelle was in Louisiana like it was super strange weird coincidences to know

Kelsie (: 08:39

Yeah.

Monica (: 08:47

That is an interesting coincidence.

Ashley (: 08:48

Suspicious.

Kelsie (: 08:51

We don't have to rehash this too long because we talked about it last week, but it is weird.

is... It's odd.

Monica (: 08:55

Yeah.

Nicole (: 08:55

It's just odd. That was the other thing that

was bothering me. What else? I don't know. I've had a lot of things bother me. ⁓ some little and I don't like to say this, but some asshole kid at the splash pad flipped my children off the other day. He just ran up to them. He goes, he was probably younger than Lola. So she he was probably four. Okay. And he runs up and he goes, Hey, both her

Ashley (: 09:08

you

my gosh.

Monica (: 09:11

Jeez.

Nicole (: 09:23

her friend that we were with and my youngest, all of them look at him and he just flips them off and then runs away. And I was like, what the fuck, kid? And of course he waited until I walked away. So I was going to throw something out in the trash can, because I was standing right next to them. I turn around to walk towards the trash can to throw my can out. as I'm halfway to the distance, I kind of look back just to make sure that they didn't run off. And he comes running up and flips them off. And I was like,

What? And I was like, where the hell is this kid's mom? Where's your mother, sir? And then I lost him and I couldn't find him again. Yeah, and then I lost him and I couldn't find him again because I was gonna say something to his mother, but I couldn't find him again and I didn't know who he belonged to, so.

Kelsie (: 09:59

Yeah.

Ashley (: 09:59

That's the worst

part of being at a public park.

Monica (: 10:02

It really is. ⁓

Ashley (: 10:03

badass kids.

Kelsie (: 10:10

I have a lot of grace for kids and like, well, like I will get mad, but I'm like rationally, you know, you're just doing what you've seen, you know? No, I know it is, but that's why I hate going to the fucking park. I have park anxiety.

Ashley (: 10:11

trucker.

Nicole (: 10:13

I don't.

you

Well, and that's the problem. Yeah, it's not his fault, right? Yeah, it's not his fault. It's

Monica (: 10:23

Mm-hmm.

Yeah, I hate going to the park.

Ashley (: 10:28

Mm-hmm.

Nicole (: 10:32

clearly his parents' fault. And that's why I was going to say something to his mother.

Kelsie (: 10:35

Yeah, no, I'm with you. I'm

Monica (: 10:36

Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm.

Kelsie (: 10:37

not denying

that like and some and some kids especially are just like they'll do anything, you know, but like

Nicole (: 10:42

Yeah.

Kelsie (: 10:45

I don't know. It's all craziness.

Nicole (: 10:46

I was just shocked.

Monica (: 10:46

Mm-hmm.

Nicole (: 10:48

It was such a busy day at the splash pad too, because it's a really big splash pad. And I was just shocked. I'm like, dude, why are you just running? And I was like, is he running up to like a bunch of kids doing this? Probably to get some kind of attention like.

Monica (: 11:00

Probably. It's like that

kid when you were visiting Arizona last year that was doing a similar thing and then come to find out he was visiting his cousins. His cousins were pissed at him for getting them all in trouble.

Ashley (: 11:02

Mm-hmm.

Nicole (: 11:05

Oh yeah, yeah, the ones that were cursing. Yeah, and I yelled at him. Yeah. Mm hmm.

Mm hmm. Yeah, I yelled at that kid too. But that kid was like a teenager. Yeah, he was like 12. He was like 12 and he was being mean to littles.

Kelsie (: 11:15

It's.

Ashley (: 11:15

That kid was mean. He was calling some girl a name, wasn't he? He was being actually mean. Yeah, he knew. He knew what he was doing.

Monica (: 11:16

That kid was mean.

Yeah.

Kelsie (: 11:21

⁓ when they're when they're a little older

too that that's more frustrating towards them because not that they I still have like grace for kids because they're just they're not They're not developed but when they're older and they're intentionally it's just different like you Yeah But maybe I'm like

Ashley (: 11:25

Yes.

Monica (: 11:26

Yeah.

Nicole (: 11:32

Yeah, they're not there. Yeah.

Monica (: 11:32

Yeah, they're figuring it out.

Nicole (: 11:37

Yeah, I had to yell at that kid because nobody else was. So of course I had to. Yeah.

Monica (: 11:37

Mm Yeah, that and the other mom that

joined us.

Nicole (: 11:42

Me too. Yeah.

Kelsie (: 11:43

I'm such a helicopter parent, like,

because I know that like, Mattis is autistic, Maverick has, he's only two, like they're, ⁓ what's the word I'm looking for?

Sure, yes, we'll go with that. That's still not the word, but that's fine. Close enough. It's like, it's just there and they're not like, so I'm constantly like behind them. Like if you're going to be, if you do anything mean, like you're getting snatched off this fucking playground.

Monica (: 11:57

impulsivity.

Ashley (: 12:01

Thank

Monica (: 12:05

Yeah.

Nicole (: 12:10

Mm-hmm.

Ashley (: 12:14

Mm-hmm.

Nicole (: 12:15

Yeah,

well, and I'm the same way, yeah. Also, yeah, yeah.

Ashley (: 12:16

Yeah.

Kelsie (: 12:16

Because I recognize that they might do something mean and not even like think through,

Monica (: 12:21

Yeah.

Kelsie (: 12:21

but you have to be there to correct it. I think that's where the issue is.

Nicole (: 12:24

Yes.

Monica (: 12:24

Mm-hmm.

Ashley (: 12:25

Mm-hmm. Yeah.

Nicole (: 12:25

See,

Monica (: 12:25

It's the act of parenting.

Nicole (: 12:25

that, and so, yeah, so I was, we went there to meet up with a friend and her and I are the same. We're both very much watching our kids. ⁓ If not right next to them, we are keeping them in our line of sight at all times because yeah, you never know how they're gonna react to another kid or whatever, you know, what's gonna happen. You don't know.

And especially at the splash pad, I get nervous because the splash pad has like, it's not just water features. This one has like little slides they can go down and things they can climb on. like, we're always afraid that they're going to slip. So we're right next to them. Actually, her son did slip and fall off of one of the things and hit his head on the floor and it's fucking concrete. You know, it's not like it's anything soft, but anyway, so like we're always on top of it. And we were talking like, it just seems like

Ashley (: 13:06

Hmm.

Nicole (: 13:16

at this splash pad in particular people will just go and that's where they stop parenting their children at the gates. They're like, okay, bye and they just sit down and they don't do fucking shit free for all. Yeah. Because every time we always witness something if it doesn't happen directly to us, we still witness something usually. And it's like, man, these people really just they see the splash pad and they're like, free daycare. Okay, see you later. And they just don't and it's insane.

Monica (: 13:24

Yeah.

Ashley (: 13:25

Free for all.

Monica (: 13:27

Yeah.

Mm-mm.

Kelsie (: 13:42

just want to talk to these parents because ⁓ I have anxiety. I don't understand how you're not watching your kids closely.

Monica (: 13:46

I know. Like, I think that

there is something to be said of like, let the kids kind of work things out and figure it out and like have some plans with that, right? But then the other side of it though is that it just always feels like it gets to this point where their kids are just being bullies or being like, it requires active parenting.

Nicole (: 13:56

Sure, yeah, depending on what it is.

Yeah. Yeah.

Kelsie (: 14:07

Well, it's one thing to sit back

and like, like sit back but still actively watching, but some of them are, they're just not. Yeah.

Nicole (: 14:14

Mm-hmm.

Monica (: 14:18

Yeah, they're just like, they're out.

Ashley (: 14:20

Mm-hmm.

Nicole (: 14:20

Yeah,

most of the time I'm right on top of my kid because of my kid like she is. Ava is so small. The girl just won't grow. She's a dwarf. Not really, but she's just so little. so most majority of the time the issue is that everybody's in their like play zone mind, right? And they're just running around and they're having a great time and she's doing her own thing, not paying attention. She'll be walking one direction, the kid will come running right into her. And I've had to literally like, grab like catch her because she's so

Monica (: 14:24

Right.

Ashley (: 14:30

And she's tiny.

Monica (: 14:39

Mm-hmm.

Nicole (: 14:50

small and she gets plowed into so like with her I have to be a helicopter parent because she is not doesn't have the awareness to look around for the big kids yet and she's a teeny little teeny little thing and I'm like she's going to get plowed over if I just don't stand here and

Ashley (: 14:53

Mm-hmm.

Monica (: 14:56

Yeah.

Kelsie (: 15:05

You

Monica (: 15:08

Mm hmm. I think it's just exhausting

because then you like, like this is why I hate the part is it's like the the other kids can be mean, but also it's like, it's already exhausting enough, like watching your own kids and having to like parent them and be on top of it. But then you have to have like your radar on for all these other kids. And you're just like, I don't want to watch 15 kids.

Nicole (: 15:26

Other kids ⁓

Ashley (: 15:31

Yeah.

Nicole (: 15:33

We had we were at the regular park the other day and I was trying to push a von the swing and These other kids with their parents literally right next to them. They were like, hey, can you push me? And I was like, no, I am pushing my kid No My child

Monica (: 15:48

I'm busy over here.

Ashley (: 15:49

Hard pass.

Kelsie (: 15:49

But then that doesn't that make you sad because

it's like they probably didn't even ask their own parents because they knew they wouldn't.

Nicole (: 15:54

No, they didn't.

Monica (: 15:54

Yeah.

Nicole (: 15:55

They didn't ask their parents and I was like, why don't you ask your mom? She's my baby. So I'm pushing her and like, you know, I just have but then they and they maybe but it was like every single time I would put Ava on the swings, they would come over would you push me to and like, it depends. Sometimes I'm like, yeah, I'll give everybody a push. And then that's it. I'm like, normally I draw the line. I'm like, okay, I'll push you a couple times. But that's all I'm gonna do because

Kelsie (: 16:02

Cause they probably know their parents aren't going to.

Monica (: 16:04

Mm-hmm.

Ashley (: 16:05

Yeah.

⁓

Monica (: 16:16

Yeah.

Nicole (: 16:24

I know. I feel weird about like touching other people's kids and just like being another kid's people like other people's children's space too. So I'm like, I don't even think I'm doing anything fucking weird. just, you know, like that stresses me out too. Cause I don't want people to be like, Ooh, creeper. But even though I'm not, but you know, it's like kids don't know that they're just going to be like, Hey, can you do this and whatever? And it's like, yeah. Okay. Is that appropriate? Okay. I don't know.

Monica (: 16:30

Yeah.

Ashley (: 16:44

Yeah.

Monica (: 16:45

Mm-hmm.

Yeah.

Ashley (: 16:49

Mm-hmm.

Monica (: 16:53

Right.

Nicole (: 16:54

When you ask your mom, please so I could not be in this awkward situation. Thank you

Monica (: 17:01

Seriously. Well

Ashley, you had a funny parenting moment this week, didn't you? ⁓

Ashley (: 17:06

Yeah, okay, yes, I was bothered by my son. ⁓ Okay, so he goes, I know that I could say that every single week really, but I mean, I love him, but you know, okay, so he goes to speech therapy and we usually see the same speech therapist every week, twice a week, whatever. So last week we went, it was a different girl, which is fine. He went with her, he has like no problems, whatever. We finished the appointment, we leave, we're like at home later and he's telling me.

Monica (: 17:10

Good start. ⁓

Nicole (: 17:16

Really?

⁓

Ashley (: 17:35

⁓ about Miss Taylor, which was the speech therapist. And he's like, yeah, she was asking me, ⁓ are you going to be homeschooled or are you going to school? And he told her because he knows he said, I'm homeschooled. And she's like, OK, so what do you do for school and when do you do it? Which, first of all, I don't know why she's asking all these questions. I'm already I'm already annoyed. ⁓ And he tells her, yeah, he tells her, ⁓ well, we pretty much just don't do it.

Kelsie (: 17:56

you

Nicole (: 17:56

Seriously, why are you questioning my kid?

Ashley (: 18:03

And I'm like, Griffin, why did you say that in that way? Like, okay, he's right. We don't do it because he hasn't started school yet. Like, he's not of age to start school. Like, he's five and he's the size of a seven-year-old.

Nicole (: 18:13

He hasn't even started yet

Monica (: 18:18

Like it's not

even summer break, like he literally hasn't started school.

Nicole (: 18:21

Listen,

he will be... Yeah, yeah.

Ashley (: 18:23

Like if he was in regular school, he wouldn't be in school yet. So why,

so why is she even asking in the first place? And then why has he got to like throw me under the bus? Like we pretty much don't do it. And then, you know, they bring the kid out to you. So then she had brought me Griffin and she doesn't say anything to me about it, you know? So it's just like, they're having this weird little conversation during speech therapy and she brings him out and she's just like, he did great today. And I'm like, bitch, you're lucky you're not the regular lady. Okay. Because we would have a problem.

Nicole (: 18:39

Of course not.

you

Yeah, he did.

Kelsie (: 18:50

You

Nicole (: 18:52

He did great throwing you under the bus today, Mom.

Ashley (: 18:54

Yeah,

yeah. So then.

Monica (: 18:56

mean, if it helps,

if it helps you feel better, like we've had very similar things at speech therapy too, of just like, where we were doing school and J5 threw me under the bus. It was like, we don't do much.

Ashley (: 19:07

Yeah, they'll just say kids will just say things.

Nicole (: 19:07

He's like, we can go whenever.

Ashley (: 19:11

Yeah, I'm like this is a little teaser for how and Monica, you can probably attest a teaser for how annoying it's going to be homeschooling and all the questions I'm going to get because we haven't even started and the amount of questions people ask me, they're like, well, is he going to take the Aims test? Well, what are you going to do high school? I'm like, bitch, he's five.

Monica (: 19:16

Yes.

Yes.

Yes.

And it's always like,

it's always in this like tone of voice of this like deep concern and kind of like frantic of like, but like, they're not gonna miss this, are they? And you're like, that's like years down the road. I don't know.

Nicole (: 19:31

You

Ashley (: 19:34

Yeah!

It's so annoying. Yeah, like,

get with the program. People homeschool now. It's fine.

Monica (: 19:45

Right.

Nicole (: 19:45

⁓ my

Monica (: 19:45

My

Nicole (: 19:46

god, see?

Monica (: 19:46

favorite is when they ask, go, but not for high school, right? Like, right? And I'm like, probably yes, but also, I don't know. We'll see. Like, the child's nine. I don't know.

Ashley (: 19:51

Yeah, yeah.

They're not in high school, yeah. Why are you asking

Nicole (: 19:58

there yet.

Ashley (: 20:00

that question? It's so bizarre. It happened to us at the pediatrician too when we went and we were seeing a new pediatrician and she's asking about homeschooling and she's so condescending. Like she must see this all the time. It's a very specific type of pediatrician that I think probably a lot of homeschool kids go to because they don't require certain things and...

Monica (: 20:11

Mm-hmm.

Nicole (: 20:14

I feel like especially in Arizona.

Monica (: 20:17

Yeah.

Ha!

Ashley (: 20:24

I don't want to go into too much detail about the medical freedoms here, But so she's asking

Nicole (: 20:24

To put it lightly. ⁓

Kelsie (: 20:28

Hmm.

Ashley (: 20:30

questions about homeschooling, which I would think she'd be familiar with. And she's like, but can he count to 10? And I'm like, he does multiplication. Yes, he can count to 10. Like, please stop asking me stupid questions. She literally said, can he count to 10 and does he know his colors? And like when you ask him his favorite colors, he says, my favorite colors are the three primary colors for red, blue and yellow.

Nicole (: 20:52

my god.

Ashley (: 20:54

And I'm like, Griffin, you're such

Nicole (: 20:54

I love him.

Ashley (: 20:55

a nerd. But also I'm just, ugh, the first time he said that, I looked at Patrick and I was like, whoa, nerd alert. So yeah, the homeschool. Yeah, yes. there, it all makes sense. Yeah, the homeschool questions annoy me to like no end.

Monica (: 21:04

There's a reason that your kids get along with my kids.

Kelsie (: 21:04

Ha!

Nicole (: 21:05

kid is this.

That's funny. That's so funny. See, that's crazy.

Monica (: 21:11

It all makes sense. Yeah.

Nicole (: 21:15

Because when I was younger, I went to charter schools and like sometimes I feel like

The progression from public school to like charter school and then to home school was normal. Like a lot of kids came from public schools to the charter schools and then all of sudden they'd be like, well, we're going home school, bye. And I would be so jealous. I'd be like, man, I want to go to home school. I don't want to get up and have to freaking come to this place every day. I want to be home schooled. I was so, so jealous.

Monica (: 21:29

Yeah.

Ashley (: 21:37

Hmm.

Yeah

Monica (: 21:44

Seriously.

Ashley (: 21:45

When you're a kid,

I think you want to be homeschooled because you expect it's like doing nothing. You're like, yeah, homeschool. Just stay home.

Nicole (: 21:47

Yeah! Cause you- you wanna- well, not even that!

Kelsie (: 21:51

No, where

Nicole (: 21:52

But

Kelsie (: 21:52

I grew up, I think we thought homeschooled kids were weirdos.

Nicole (: 21:52

if you have to do home... Well, okay.

Monica (: 21:55

for sure. Growing

up, we, we definitely thought that, but I also was in a small town, so there weren't very many to like, yeah. Have an example of. Yeah. Now it's a huge community, especially. Yeah. Especially here in the Valley and in Arizona.

Ashley (: 21:56

Well, some, mean, yeah.

Nicole (: 21:58

Listen, I did a friend that was homeschooled.

Kelsie (: 22:01

To base it off of, yeah. Yeah.

Ashley (: 22:05

There's so many more now, like it's so much more common and there's such a bigger pool.

Nicole (: 22:07

Yeah.

Kelsie (: 22:08

Yeah.

Nicole (: 22:11

I

Ashley (: 22:14

Yeah.

Nicole (: 22:14

did have a friend that was homeschooled and she was a little bit of a weirdo, but she was also really cool. Like she was my kind of cool type of weirdo, so it was all right. I'm like, who cares if people think you're weird? You're kind of a cool weird, so whatever. Just let them know you're weird. Who gives a shit?

Ashley (: 22:21

Mm-hmm.

We're all kind of weird, aren't we?

Monica (: 22:28

Yeah.

Ashley (: 22:30

Yeah.

Monica (: 22:31

Yeah.

Kelsie (: 22:31

I

think looking back, they probably just come across as weird because they don't ⁓ spend time with their exact peer group all the time. So they're not doing all this shady dumb shit that they're getting. They would spend more time with adults. Now there's a lot of co-ops and stuff, but at least when we were younger, maybe there were co-ops, but I don't.

Monica (: 22:40

Mm-hmm.

Nicole (: 22:42

And a lot of the time they're smarter.

Ashley (: 22:43

The... Yeah.

Monica (: 22:46

Yeah.

There definitely were, but I think as we were all growing up, it was more common for kids to be homeschooling for like religious reasons. And so there was just a different vibe, different structure, different rules, you know, and expectations. So I think it was just a very obvious difference, at least in my community. It was just a very obvious difference.

Nicole (: 22:53

I don't recall.

Mm hmm. That correlation. Yeah.

Ashley (: 23:01

Mm-hmm.

Kelsie (: 23:08

Mm-hmm.

Nicole (: 23:08

Mm-hmm.

Ashley (: 23:14

Yeah.

Nicole (: 23:14

Yeah,

I could see that. Oh my god, I was gonna say something.

Monica (: 23:16

Mm-hmm. Whereas now, like,

everybody homeschools, like, every kind of, like, category of family homeschools.

Nicole (: 23:23

Yes.

Monica (: 23:24

I'm bothered because our pediatrician retired. And now I have to find a new one. And he actually was very supportive of homeschooling, like, especially for my, my middle list who just would have had a hard time sitting in the classroom all day long. And so when I presented them the idea with it of like, Yeah, I'm pretty sure we're homeschooling next year for kindergarten for him. And then probably beyond but like, we're gonna start with kindergarten. He was like, No, that's the right decision. Like he needs another year home.

Ashley (: 23:33

Mmm.

Yeah.

Monica (: 23:53

at least to do that and like figure stuff out and probably beyond. like he was so on board with it. was like, no, that makes sense. That makes total sense for you guys. And like, why can't more pediatricians be like...

Kelsie (: 24:05

Well, I don't want to go too deep into this, but I just, I do have to say that I think it's weird that we, like, why is this something we consult our, why does our pediatrician's opinions matter on this particular, like, I understand to a degree that they're just making sure that they're like being cared for in the sense that they're staying up with what they should know, but like, I feel like it gets taken to the next level where it's like, you shouldn't really have,

Monica (: 24:16

I know.

Nicole (: 24:22

The child's taking care of you.

Monica (: 24:22

Well,

yeah, part of it.

Ashley (: 24:26

Mm-hmm.

Monica (: 24:29

Yeah.

Kelsie (: 24:32

of an opinion on whether what we decide to do if my child is obviously well and obviously taking like it. I mean.

Monica (: 24:36

Yes. ⁓

Yeah, like

I can speak to some of it just because of what I do as a like for my career is it like some of it and like some of the questions like what you were saying Ashley is like, you know, like, can you count to 10? What's your favorite color part of that is because they're like, the front line of screening to make sure that if there are any flags, right. But then, yes, but but then it's like, there still needs to be like

Nicole (: 24:57

Mm-hmm.

Kelsie (: 24:58

Which, I understand that, but it gets taken too far.

Monica (: 25:07

the parents still need to feel like they can make the choices without feeling shamed. And that's where I like there's such a problem is like, there's some pediatricians who just feel like they have the right to really make their opinion known as though it's like a higher opinion when it's just a different opinion.

Ashley (: 25:11

Mm-hmm. Yeah, it's a gray area.

Mm-hmm.

Nicole (: 25:21

Mm-hmm.

Kelsie (: 25:23

Well, they should be looking at it from a spectrum of are they

Nicole (: 25:23

Yeah.

Ashley (: 25:23

Yeah.

Kelsie (: 25:26

delayed because of a developmental delay? Are they delayed because of ⁓ like, you know, some thing that's medically you can help them with? Not are they delayed because their parents chose to homeschool them? Like, yeah.

Monica (: 25:36

Yeah.

Well, and that's what it feels like. Like that might not

Ashley (: 25:43

Yeah.

Monica (: 25:43

always be what it is, but it definitely feels that way. Cause I know exactly what you're talking about Ashley. Cause I've had that from other doctors who like, you know, when ours wasn't available.

Nicole (: 25:46

It probably, it probably, I feel like it probably, initially,

initially it probably comes from a sense of like, are they delayed because of neglect? Like, are they actually just, you know, not being cared for? But then I do feel like there are some that just overstep the boundaries. They're like, no, it's best if you do it that way, this way or that way. Well, it's best if I decide what I'm going to do for my child. Thank you so much. Like, they're healthy, they're fine. You can see that. I don't need you to tell me like.

Monica (: 25:54

Yes.

Yes.

Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. Well,

Ashley (: 26:11

Mm-hmm.

Monica (: 26:16

I feel like that's the way that it is with so many, like, regulations and things like that, is that it always starts from a good place, and then it evolves, and... yeah.

Nicole (: 26:16

What school I need to put them in.

Mm-hmm. Yeah, yeah, and then it just gets crazy.

Ashley (: 26:23

People are kind

of on a power trip. You got to be able to like nut up and be like, no, you know, like that's, that's not best or whatever the situation is. ⁓

Nicole (: 26:27

Yeah. Shut it down. Yeah. Yeah.

Kelsie (: 26:33

Yeah. I

don't have any pediatrician hate. just, I've heard that a lot just specifically about like homeschooling and stuff. And it's like, why do we have homeschool kids are notoriously quite smart. Like, why is there, why do pediatricians or like some professionals still seem to like push this like, ⁓ you, but they're homeschooled. Like.

Monica (: 26:41

Mm-hmm.

Nicole (: 26:48

Yeah.

Monica (: 26:56

Mm-hmm.

Like, ⁓

Ashley (: 26:58

Yeah, it's a very

Nicole (: 26:59

Yeah. Yeah. Yeah,

Ashley (: 26:59

old way of thinking. don't really get it.

Nicole (: 27:01

me either. And you would think now that we would be past that already, but I guess we're not. It's 2025. Get with the program.

Monica (: 27:02

I don't either.

Ashley (: 27:05

Mm-hmm.

Monica (: 27:05

Yeah, I like

Kelsie (: 27:08

Anyways, you wanna know what I'm bothered by?

Monica (: 27:11

Yeah.

Ashley (: 27:11

Yes.

Nicole (: 27:11

Yes,

of course.

Kelsie (: 27:13

Okay, this is actually kind of dark. I'm sorry for this. ⁓ But I actually have no nothing to say about the like person this involves. And I don't I don't want this to be brought up because of them or what happened to them. Or like even like the cloud talking about this. I probably won't put clips of this on social media. But I do think it should be talked about a influencer very, very popular influencer on TikTok.

her son drown, her three year old son drown in their backyard pool. And she never came on line once to say anything about it, confirm that it was her. People just went crazy sleuthing, figured out that it was her. And then just, I mean, they were all using it for like hits for.

Nicole (: 28:05

How though? How do you find

that out? How do you sleuth so hard you find that out when the person hasn't even... Jesus.

Monica (: 28:09

That's so horrible.

Ashley (: 28:12

Well, you hear it on the news and then you probably

Kelsie (: 28:12

Well, they showed

Monica (: 28:13

Mm-hmm.

Kelsie (: 28:14

they showed like, guess maybe the news showed pictures of the house or like, and people recognized it. I don't think they showed any picture. I don't think they did. But they did show ⁓ like pictures and stuff. And people were just like, that looks like her house. And so then people were like, you know, posting shifts just because they were going to get views from it about it.

Nicole (: 28:17

Okay, that makes sense.

Ashley (: 28:19

They probably might have showed the family or something, yeah.

Monica (: 28:21

Yeah, they honestly

probably said her name.

Nicole (: 28:32

That's crazy.

Ashley (: 28:39

Mm-hmm.

Kelsie (: 28:40

And it's kind of, it's fairly sad, but also the comments like are insane, like blaming them. And it's just, if you've ever had a kid and you don't know that shit happens fast, you're just, cause some of them like, this would never. it's like, yeah, tragedy feels preventable until it happens to you. Yeah. And they're like, well, she didn't have a pool fence, but she did have a pool net and she's had there.

Nicole (: 28:40

That's Gross.

Ashley (: 28:54

Mm-hmm. ⁓

Monica (: 28:55

So fast.

Mm-hmm.

Kelsie (: 29:09

saw videos where she was talking about pool safety and like trying to figure out what the best route was for like keeping the pool safe. So I have to imagine that whatever happened really was just a freak accident. shit happens fast. Yeah.

Nicole (: 29:22

Freak accident.

Monica (: 29:25

Mm-hmm.

Ashley (: 29:26

She's already blaming herself. There's no reason for anyone on

the internet to blame. You know she already feels, I mean, the situation is horrible. It's tragic. Like I...

Nicole (: 29:30

Yeah.

Monica (: 29:30

Seriously.

Kelsie (: 29:34

Well, and everyone

was going at her and it's like, and then something came out later that maybe it was like, maybe she wasn't even home and it was the husband. And it's like, that's just, well, at the end of the day, it doesn't matter who it is. They're gonna live with it till the day they die. But like, that's just another example of society blaming the mother. What if she wasn't even there? Like, and she's still gonna live with the guilt of not being there when that's not even her, like.

Monica (: 29:42

Yeah. Could have been a babysitter.

Nicole (: 29:43

Woo!

I don't know.

Ashley (: 29:45

Yeah.

Monica (: 29:48

Yeah.

Mm-hmm.

Nicole (: 29:56

Yeah.

Monica (: 30:01

Well, that's like based off of the assumption of like that the issue was whether or not there was a pool net or a gate or whatever. Like they could have just been swimming and something happened. Like, we don't know. None of us were there. It's just tragic.

Nicole (: 30:01

Yeah.

Ashley (: 30:12

Mm-hmm.

Nicole (: 30:12

Yeah. Yeah, how's the

Kelsie (: 30:13

Yeah, I read

some, I don't even gonna read like, I'm not even gonna like relay what the speculations of like what was happening or where he was. But like shit happens fast with kids. Like, Mattis, I'll tell the story just for the sake of this, is like Mattis is autistic and he elopes, which means he runs away. He has no concept of danger. He does not have any safety.

Nicole (: 30:15

details come out?

Monica (: 30:24

Mm-hmm.

Ashley (: 30:25

Yeah.

Nicole (: 30:25

super fast.

Goodbye.

Kelsie (: 30:42

flags in his mind, you know, he's just gonna go and he's not gonna look back and if you call his name, probably not gonna mean much like.

Nicole (: 30:44

Mm-mm. Yeah.

Kelsie (: 30:53

We have locks on every door. have regular locks, we have big locks, we do everything. We try to do everything we can in our power. We can't put a tracker on him because he just strips his clothes off. You do everything you can and he still managed to escape and run away. He didn't make it that far, thank God. We realized it quickly, thank God, but shit happens fast.

Ashley (: 31:14

Mm-hmm.

Nicole (: 31:16

Thank God, yeah.

Monica (: 31:21

Mm-hmm.

Nicole (: 31:21

Mm-hmm.

Kelsie (: 31:22

like so fast.

Nicole (: 31:22

Yep.

Ashley (: 31:22

Yeah.

Kelsie (: 31:23

So anyways, I just, I'm bothered not by any of that. I'm bothered by the fact that the internet is so high and mighty.

Ashley (: 31:31

it's horrible.

Nicole (: 31:33

Well, that's another that's kind of similar to the doctor thing, like people think that they have the right to tell you what to kind of like do with your child, people think that they have the right to know all the information of your life just because you're an influencer. And then they they take that and they demonize you with it, right. And so the fact that people recognized pictures of the like the house on the news or whatever, and they were able to be like, that's so and so's house. That's scary. Like

Monica (: 31:33

Seriously, well.

Ashley (: 31:33

Yeah.

Monica (: 31:40

Mm-hmm.

Kelsie (: 31:47

Mm-hmm.

Monica (: 31:49

Mm-hmm.

Kelsie (: 31:50

Well, and people even went so far.

Well, and people

Monica (: 32:00

That's wild,

Kelsie (: 32:01

were

watching the coroner's reports daily. And so when it did come across with his name, then they were like, oh, it was her. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah.

Ashley (: 32:04

my God.

Nicole (: 32:04

that's sick. No, that's sick.

Monica (: 32:07

Yeah, that's disgusting.

Ashley (: 32:08

It's confirmed. Yeah, that's horrible.

Nicole (: 32:10

That's fucking gross.

Monica (: 32:10

That's disgusting.

Well, and it's I was gonna say, I think it's just ridiculous to like anybody commenting with judgment, because one, it's tragic. And like we said, like, she's gonna live with that forever. But also, like, can any of us as parents, like, say here and say that, like, we've never had a moment where our child, like snuck off and like got into something or like that we lost sight of them for a second, because kids are kids, like, it happens. And sometimes it's something minor.

Ashley (: 32:11

reminds me... Oh, go ahead, Monica.

Mm-hmm.

Mm-hmm. Yeah, of course.

Kelsie (: 32:39

If it's never

happened to you, then you are one lucky son of a bitch. ⁓

Monica (: 32:40

And sometimes, you know, seriously,

Ashley (: 32:44

No, it's happened to everybody. Yeah.

Monica (: 32:44

like how does it not happen? you know, like we're lucky most of the time that it's not a big deal, but unfortunately there's these times where like it is and I don't know. I just, don't think it's a certain place to judge. It's just really sad. Yeah, seriously.

Nicole (: 32:57

And that's why I'm a helicopter parent. Honestly,

Ashley (: 33:00

And to be

Nicole (: 33:02

that's why I'm helicopter parent. That's crazy.

Ashley (: 33:02

out there and be feel confident enough to like say shit like that to someone like Where do you where do you get the like? The balls to do that that I would feel like a horrible person and that that's what I was gonna say. It reminded me of this other Mom that she did share her story and stuff online about what happened to her kids But it was like something with propane tanks in her backyard. There was a huge fire their house burned down She had like five kids and like three of them died in the fire

Monica (: 33:11

I know.

Nicole (: 33:15

the audacity.

Monica (: 33:15

W-

Ugh.

⁓

Ashley (: 33:30

And she shared about it online, which I

Nicole (: 33:30

my god, I would not be able to live.

Ashley (: 33:32

can't fathom to begin, like any of it, I can't fathom. But then I remember seeing one of her reels and someone commenting and saying, like, how did you get out and your kids didn't? I would never leave ⁓ the house without all of my children. And she was commenting back to these comments. And she's like, you just don't understand until you're in it. And I'm like, whoa, this is like a different like universe. Like, how are you now having to defend?

Nicole (: 33:36

No.

Ashley (: 33:58

yourself against a fire that happened at your like, it's just so fucked up.

Monica (: 34:01

And I just like,

I can't even imagine being in that situation too. And like, I just, can't even.

Ashley (: 34:08

It's horrible. Yeah, people have no like they don't give grace there. They don't even think that they're talking to real people like this day and age. You don't know the person on the other side of this is actually like a real person. Yeah.

Monica (: 34:16

Mm-hmm.

Nicole (: 34:20

A human, yeah.

Kelsie (: 34:21

That's the problem is that we're

just so, like our brain, like we're just fucking dumb. Like we really just turn off the switch that tells us that these are other people on the other side of the screen. we.

Monica (: 34:29

Mm-hmm.

Nicole (: 34:31

Yeah. Yeah. The empathy

Ashley (: 34:32

Mm-hmm.

Monica (: 34:33

Mm-hmm, like empathy goes

out the window.

Nicole (: 34:35

has, yeah, there's zero empathy, I feel like, with the keyboard warriors. I think it's because a lot of people...

Ashley (: 34:35

Yeah.

Kelsie (: 34:38

That brain connection for some people is just severed. That they just like, if I'm not actively

Ashley (: 34:41

It's gone. Yeah.

Kelsie (: 34:44

know this person, they're not real.

Nicole (: 34:46

Yeah,

Monica (: 34:46

Mm-hmm.

Nicole (: 34:46

and I think it's because a lot of people don't have true community anymore where they're actually like majority of our relationships are online now. And so like, they don't have that person to person connection anywhere where they can actually see somebody going through something and then feel the empathy for it because it's so distant, right? It's out of distance. So.

Ashley (: 34:46

Yeah,

which is insane.

Mm-hmm.

Monica (: 35:00

Mm-hmm.

Nicole (: 35:07

And, and we're I think desensitized a little bit sometimes to tragedies because we see them constantly. They're constantly on the news. They're constantly online. We're so desensitized in this day and age where when somebody does have something horrific happen to them, like losing a child in any capacity, nobody bats an eye anymore. Like, no, nobody cares. And it's like, these people are

Ashley (: 35:10

That's what I was gonna say. Yeah. Yep.

Monica (: 35:11

Yeah.

Kelsie (: 35:11

Very.

Monica (: 35:15

Yeah.

Ashley (: 35:27

Yeah.

It's just another, yeah.

Nicole (: 35:31

These people

Monica (: 35:32

Mm-hmm.

Nicole (: 35:32

are

feeling empty and for them to come to the internet to seek a community in the first place because they're missing that and they realize they're missing that and they need that help and that support and then you come and you don't even know them and you have an opinion like and it's a negative one. Get out.

Kelsie (: 35:48

Well, I honestly, somewhat

Ashley (: 35:48

It's. Yeah.

Kelsie (: 35:50

I think it has to do, and there was people, this is also, there's just like a really negative connotation about influencers in general, which I think is really unfair. Because if any one of you could make money from home by just making videos and be that successful, you're telling me you wouldn't fucking do it. Don't lie to me. Do not lie to me. And I think people are. And a lot of people were like, well, maybe if she put her phone down, and it's like,

Monica (: 35:58

Mm-hmm.

Nicole (: 35:58

Hey Green, it is on fire.

Monica (: 36:07

Right.

Nicole (: 36:08

yeah, yeah, exactly.

Ashley (: 36:09

They're jealous. Yeah.

Ugh.

Kelsie (: 36:16

You

don't know. Just like fuck off with that. And but this is what I got sucked into that. But the thing is, like, this is her job. This is her livelihood. She's very successful. I don't know if her husband works, but I imagine he maybe doesn't have to. She's a very successful tick tocker. Like. She doesn't have to come back to this, but if she comes back to it because it is her job.

Nicole (: 36:16

It's not always about that.

Monica (: 36:17

Yeah.

Ashley (: 36:19

that people just assume.

Nicole (: 36:21

Yeah.

Monica (: 36:21

Seriously

Mm-hmm.

Yeah.

Kelsie (: 36:45

She has

to come back and aside from all this other bull crap and all the grief she's going through, this is like an added layer that she has to come back into if she wants to like continue to make money doing her job. Most people don't have to think about that when somebody experiences like a tragic death. They're like, they're gonna go back to their job and it's not the opinions of millions.

Ashley (: 36:48

sift through that.

Nicole (: 36:54

Mm-hmm.

Monica (: 36:57

Mm-hmm.

Nicole (: 37:01

And then...

Monica (: 37:08

Mm-hmm.

Mm-hmm.

Ashley (: 37:13

Yeah,

Nicole (: 37:14

Right.

Ashley (: 37:14

in your face telling you it's your fault. Yeah.

Kelsie (: 37:14

that they have to come back to

Nicole (: 37:16

Yeah. Yeah. Well, we've said this about the celebrity before the celebrities before like just because they choose to put their life out there and live in the limelight does not give the people the right to their actual personal lives and you know, the inner workings of their homes and whatever and I feel like it's the same with influencers like yeah, they're choosing to put themselves out there.

Kelsie (: 37:16

just to make a living.

Ashley (: 37:18

Mm-hmm.

Monica (: 37:24

Mm-hmm.

Nicole (: 37:41

And that's great because it is their job. It doesn't mean that you get to nitpick everything about their lives. Like it is a real job.

Kelsie (: 37:44

Well, and people will be like, yeah. Well, people will also be like, go get a real job. And it's like, have you tried?

Have you tried to make content? Because if you haven't, you need to shut the fuck up because it is a job.

Nicole (: 37:53

It is a real job. Yeah. It's hard,

Monica (: 37:53

Right.

Ashley (: 37:56

It's hard.

Monica (: 37:57

It's hot.

Nicole (: 37:58

first of all, and it's paying better than any real job, quote unquote, at this point in this day and age. Yeah. Yeah. And you're only saying get a real job because you wish you could accomplish what they have accomplished likely. You know what I mean? Like,

Monica (: 38:01

Mm-hmm.

Kelsie (: 38:01

Yeah,

that goes back to the if you could do it, you would. And don't you dare lie to me like.

Monica (: 38:06

Right.

Ashley (: 38:06

Yep.

Yep.

Kelsie (: 38:15

Yeah.

Monica (: 38:16

Well, especially because I think most people just think like, it's just the videos, that's the job, but there's so much more behind the scenes and like we're getting small clips of their life. That's it, small clips.

Nicole (: 38:22

Yes. Yeah. Well, and that's

Kelsie (: 38:25

Yeah.

Ashley (: 38:25

Yeah.

Nicole (: 38:26

the thing. They're putting small clips.

Kelsie (: 38:26

And you don't know how much time is spent editing those small clips of their life, like a lot. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah.

Monica (: 38:30

Yeah. Or planning and communicating with brands and like all of that.

Ashley (: 38:30

Mm-hmm. Yep. Yep.

Nicole (: 38:32

And

talking to just people in general, like lot of influencers obviously have to have a good rapport with their people they're following, so they have to put that time and energy into the people that follow them, or they're not gonna receive that time and energy back, and they won't be able to do their job, right? So it's a lot, it's a lot. More power to them. But the...

Monica (: 38:35

it's

Kelsie (: 38:37

Mm-hmm.

Monica (: 38:41

Mm-hmm.

Mm-hmm.

Ashley (: 38:52

Ugh, well that is tragic. PSA,

Kelsie (: 38:53

Yeah. It is tragic. I just wanted to

Monica (: 38:53

That is horrible.

Kelsie (: 38:56

complain about the people. Yeah.

Ashley (: 38:56

be a nice person even on the internet.

Nicole (: 38:59

Be a nice person even on the internet. My heart goes out to her because it is an accident. Honestly, your child could pass away from a bee sting if they're allergic and you don't know. Anything can happen and any result can happen and it doesn't matter what the circumstances are, it's still tragic. mean, unless, I don't know, unless like.

Monica (: 38:59

Seriously.

Ashley (: 39:09

Mm-hmm.

Monica (: 39:11

Mm-hmm.

Ashley (: 39:12

It happens so often here.

Kelsie (: 39:12

Mm-hmm.

Ashley (: 39:20

Yeah, for sure.

Nicole (: 39:28

people I don't have sympathy for obviously are like family annihilators that then try to lie about it. Like unless you do the crime. Yeah, unless you correct, correct. The people that love their children and their children passed from an accident are not the people out there that are murdering their children and have like some kind of severe mental illness and you know, like those, those people sure. Yeah.

Kelsie (: 39:32

That's what I was gonna say. There's people out there murdering their babies. Let's not be crucifying the people who love their children.

Monica (: 39:37

Yeah.

Ashley (: 39:47

Yeah.

Nicole (: 39:55

crucify them in the comments, whatever. But the people that have accidents and things happen to them in life that they weren't expecting, it's not our place to judge. It's not our place to say anything except for, I'm sorry. I'm sorry for what you're going through and it's hard. But it's just the entitlement that people on the internet have that is really gross. And people are unhinged on the internet.

Monica (: 40:02

Mm-hmm.

Mm-hmm.

Very.

Kelsie (: 40:17

Mm-hmm.

Monica (: 40:20

extremely.

Ashley (: 40:22

Yes, they are. But yeah, on a lighter note of people being unhinged on the internet, ⁓ we have that little trend that's going around, right? Where you tell me your most unhinged thing, like people post that they're bored and tell me the most unhinged thing you've done about XYZ.

Kelsie (: 40:22

Yeah. So with that.

Nicole (: 40:28

Yeah.

Ashley (: 40:41

Okay, so I found this one, this one chick and this one along with the thing I was bothered about today ⁓ because she said, tell me the most unhinged thing your kid has ever said in public. I'm not talking about cute oops moments. I'm talking next level chaos. And so then the comments are just so fucking funny.

Monica (: 40:52

ooo

Ashley (: 41:00

Okay, this chick said, while driving in the car with my mother-in-law, her kid says, Mom, why do you hate Grandma?

Nicole (: 41:09

Oh my god. Of course I had to be the mother-in-law too. I couldn't have been like her mother. Oh, yeah. Oh, you hate me?

Kelsie (: 41:11

on

Ashley (: 41:13

Of course it's some other in-law. Of course it's some other in-law.

Kelsie (: 41:16

⁓ that's bad.

Monica (: 41:17

you know the mother-in-law's like, ⁓ so you're talking about me, okay.

Ashley (: 41:20

100%. Yeah, you can't come

back from that. You know, like you literally it's out.

Monica (: 41:25

Like

if she didn't know you hated her, like she might know now.

Ashley (: 41:27

She

knows now for sure, yes. And how do you respond? What do you even say? There's no coming back. You don't wanna keep the kid talking. know, like you gotta nip it in the bud. Yeah, like we're not, yeah, I don't even know. Okay, this other one. This other one, this girl said, when dropping my widowed aunt off at her house, my six-year-old daughter rolled down the window to yell.

Nicole (: 41:28

She knows now.

You're you're a little liar. even...

Monica (: 41:36

You're like, I don't.

Kelsie (: 41:43

Too cool.

Ashley (: 41:56

Have fun living all alone.

Nicole (: 42:05

as diabolical that kid. She's gonna grow up to be a savage.

Ashley (: 42:07

It's so mean! It's so mean!

Monica (: 42:09

This is so bad.

Nicole (: 42:15

Hahaha!

Ashley (: 42:16

What do they do? Just

Monica (: 42:16

Let me just

Ashley (: 42:16

roll

Monica (: 42:16

rub that in too.

Ashley (: 42:16

up the window and drive away. OK, and I'm going to give you one more. I just feel like this is like kids have no reference to like people being different sizes. Like they don't know what things they should say and what they should fucking not say. know, ⁓ when my daughter was three, she was at the park with my mom and there was a very heavy lady sitting on a bench and she walked up to her and said,

Kelsie (: 42:18

⁓ no.

Nicole (: 42:21

my god.

Monica (: 42:32

Mm-hmm.

Yeah.

Ashley (: 42:45

You're not skinny, are you?

Monica (: 42:51

This horrible. This like reminds me a little bit...

Nicole (: 42:52

You know what's funny? Is

I think I saw that same exact reel and there was another one with a kid that was like, we were at the pool and my son saw a larger boy and he said, ⁓ that's a big one!

Ashley (: 43:03

I have that one saved. Yeah!

Yes, yes, those just kill me because kids really do be saying stuff like that and you don't know what to say. see?

Monica (: 43:15

they will just last night. Yeah, just last night we were at

we were at a new friend's house right like I it was the first time I had met like the wife and like their daughter like kid right I know I know so we went over for like a pool party barbecue and what am I we go into the bathroom to go change and they're of course just like grabbing every single cupboard and like opening it up I'm like

Nicole (: 43:28

That's dangerous, taking your kids to new people's houses. ⁓

Kelsie (: 43:32

You

Ashley (: 43:44

⁓

Monica (: 43:44

This is not your house. You don't

Ashley (: 43:44

jeez.

Nicole (: 43:45

Yeah.

Monica (: 43:46

need to like search everything. It's not that interesting. I promise but like one of them is just like it smells and I'm like it doesn't And like my husband and I are standing there talking to like our friends and then he comes into the kitchen again to like throw something away and he's like gross

Ashley (: 44:11

Wait!

Monica (: 44:13

And she's like, ⁓ does it smell bad? I'm so sorry. And he's like, Yeah, it's the worst.

Ashley (: 44:19

Noooo

Monica (: 44:21

dear!

Ashley (: 44:23

No. ⁓ my God, Monica, this reminds me of when your kids were at my house. Do you remember?

Monica (: 44:29

Same

kid!

Nicole (: 44:32

Okay, so he's not allowed to go anywhere ⁓

Ashley (: 44:32

Okay, okay. My husband cleaned our downstairs bathroom.

He cleans our downstairs bathroom, right? And it was before Monica and her kids came over and he used like harsher chemicals than I would use. And so at one point Griffin opens the bathroom door and there's like, I don't fucking know, Clorox, bleach, who knows how many different chemicals are in the bathroom at that exact moment. Griffin opens the door to go to the bathroom and I was like, no, get out of there. It's disgusting because there's so many chemicals on the ground.

Monica (: 44:58

you

Ashley (: 45:02

And so then I guess I traumatized him a little bit when I said that and like slammed the bathroom door because then Monica's kids come over and one of them goes to use the bathroom and Griffin must have said, no, don't go in there. It's disgusting. So then later me and Monica are like listening to the kids and one of them goes to go to the bathroom or something says, no, that bathroom's disgusting. And Monica's so embarrassed. She's like, my God, no, don't say that. Don't say that.

Monica (: 45:14

You

Ashley (: 45:32

But was all my fault in the first place. It was like a game on telephone.

Kelsie (: 45:36

you ⁓

Monica (: 45:38

He does this. Like,

it's rude to describe people's homes as gross and smelly. Stop!

Nicole (: 45:45

Okay, but I can relate I can relate because I when I walk into people's spaces I am one of those people that like get assaulted with the people's like, you know other people's of their homes and it's like it's a second to adjust and I like especially because we have animals so I always wonder I'm like, god What do people smell when they find coming to my house? Cuz I've got three dogs and just like Jesus, you know what I mean? Like

Ashley (: 45:45

It wasn't his fault in this scenario.

Kelsie (: 45:45

haha ⁓

Monica (: 45:52

So.

Ashley (: 45:59

smells.

Monica (: 46:01

Mm-hmm.

Ashley (: 46:03

Mm-hmm.

Monica (: 46:09

I know, I always wonder that too with my dog.

Nicole (: 46:14

But at the same time, it's like, I get it. I get it, dude. But we got to, the filter has to go on. ⁓

Monica (: 46:16

Yeah.

Yeah,

Ashley (: 46:19

Yeah.

Kelsie (: 46:20

Okay.

Monica (: 46:20

I

know. Well, and like, and the house we were at last night, not as like, it did not smell like not in the slightest, like their house is lovely. was it lovely. And I'm just like, I'm so sorry.

Ashley (: 46:21

Yeah.

Nicole (: 46:31

He's like, it doesn't smell like our house, so it

smells. Yeah, he's like it doesn't smell like home, so it smells. That's what his- that's how his brain works. He's like, I don't know what this smell is. I don't like it.

Kelsie (: 46:38

Yeah.

Ashley (: 46:38

Yeah, I mean, I get it. I get it.

Monica (: 46:44

The hits are so unhinged.

Nicole (: 46:46

And even or even if it was like too perfumy, and he just didn't like that scent, you know, he's he's he don't like something

Ashley (: 46:46

Yeah, they are. They really are.

Kelsie (: 46:47

they are.

Ashley (: 46:53

Mm-hmm.

Kelsie (: 46:54

Well, it was a barbecue, wasn't

it? There could be all sorts of different food smells and like...

Nicole (: 46:58

Yeah?

Monica (: 46:58

He also

just opened the trash can and just stood there staring at it. It's a trash can!

Nicole (: 47:01

Well,

Ashley (: 47:04

Move on!

Nicole (: 47:04

mm, yep, yep, that'll do. I swear I say those kinds of sentences to my kids all the time. We'll be in like a public bathroom and my daughter will be like, it smells in here. I'm like, it's a public bathroom. Yes, it does. She'll be like, ew, that trash can smells. It's a trash can, yeah. Like, trash goes in there.

Monica (: 47:25

Yeah, well, same child,

we were in the restroom at, like, think it was at Great Wolf Lodge, we're in the restroom, somebody's going to the bathroom, they're letting it out, okay? Wow, that was a big one.

Ashley (: 47:35

⁓ no, no, ⁓ no.

Uhhh... No...

Nicole (: 47:45

I love him, that's so funny.

Monica (: 47:46

Thank you.

Ashley (: 47:50

Anytime Phoenix goes into a bathroom with me,

I sit on the toilet, he just says, are you pooping? Public bathroom anywhere. like, can you not?

Nicole (: 47:54

Yep. God. Every time.

Or.

Kelsie (: 47:58

You

Monica (: 47:59

Can

we not announce this to the entire rest of the

Ashley (: 48:00

Can we not talk? You

know what? New game when we go in the bathroom. Don't say a word.

Nicole (: 48:04

Yep,

my kids are always like mommy. Do you have your bleed and I'm like, can you stop talking about my bleed? Thanks?

Ashley (: 48:15

It's too much, it's too much. my God.

Nicole (: 48:15

No? Shut up!

And they're so nosy, they have to be all up in my grill at all times. I'm like, can you get back up?

Ashley (: 48:25

Yep.

Kelsie (: 48:27

I just don't like any conversation in the bathroom. Even when I go shopping with my mom, she'll go to the bathroom and she'll talk to me from the next stall and I'm like...

Monica (: 48:27

Well... Yeah, me neither.

Nicole (: 48:37

Yeah!

Kelsie (: 48:38

Hold on, partner, let's just wait till we're out of here. I don't wanna have a conversation with you and everybody else in this bathroom. like, I wanna pretend I'm alone. Yeah.

Monica (: 48:39

I know.

Nicole (: 48:44

Yeah!

Ashley (: 48:44

Yeah. You're supposed to pretend you don't know I'm here. We both

Monica (: 48:44

I know. I know. Seriously.

Ashley (: 48:48

go in, we don't talk to each other until we're out. Those are the rules.

Monica (: 48:53

For real. Well, same child anytime, like if he comes in the restroom with me, it's like I'm not even going yet. And he's just like, ⁓ smelly. ⁓

Nicole (: 49:03

Thank you, dude. ⁓

Monica (: 49:05

I'm

peeing!

Ashley (: 49:08

⁓ my

Nicole (: 49:09

Melly.

Ashley (: 49:10

god

Nicole (: 49:14

⁓ god.

Monica (: 49:14

And now he's

learned the hand motion. like, ugh.

Nicole (: 49:17

You

Ashley (: 49:17

⁓ nice.

Added for dramatic effect.

Monica (: 49:22

Yeah It's lovely I know I Know I know Although yesterday he also goes I learned a new word and I go you did he goes yeah, bruh Like Really? Okay, cool. Cool. I love that. I love that. We're entering that so now officially I've heard bro and bruh. I so I've leveled up

Kelsie (: 49:23

Gosh.

Nicole (: 49:23

kids, I love them. They're also little jerks, but I love them so much. They're so funny.

Ashley (: 49:38

my god. Unlearn it, please.

Kelsie (: 49:38

⁓ good for you.

Nicole (: 49:44

Mm-hmm.

Yep, I've got that too.

Ashley (: 49:48

⁓

Nicole (: 49:50

I've got that too and mine's not even six yet, okay? All school year I've been bruh and I keep telling her don't bruh me. I'm not your bruh, I'm your mom and if you bruh me one more time... Quit!

Ashley (: 49:53

Yeah. Yikes.

Hmm

Monica (: 50:09

Okay, well I had some unhinged stories as well. This one, it just made me laugh the other night. Not parenting related, but work related of just what's the most unhinged things that you've done to make it look like you're busy at work because we've all done it. So this one was downloaded a pic of the Windows installing update screen, made it full screen so it looked like I couldn't do anything because I was waiting for an update to complete. That's really handsome to be honest.

Kelsie (: 50:12

Yes, let's hear yours.

Nicole (: 50:22

you

Yeah

Ashley (: 50:31

my god.

Nicole (: 50:34

That is so

Kelsie (: 50:34

That's the, it's

Ashley (: 50:34

Stop.

Kelsie (: 50:36

very smart.

Nicole (: 50:36

smart.

Monica (: 50:37

because

it takes forever. I wish I would have done that.

one's pretty good too. I would go sit in a reserved room with my phone playing classical music on speakers so that if slash when a higher up would come in, I'd say, ugh, I've been on hold forever.

Ashley (: 50:47

you

Kelsie (: 50:52

Thank

Ashley (: 50:52

my God.

Nicole (: 50:56

It's really good.

Monica (: 50:57

Especially if can find like there's certain songs that like everybody knows it's like that's hold music like find that and just keep playing it

Ashley (: 50:58

That's a good one.

Nicole (: 51:00

Dude!

It's elevator music. Yeah.

Ashley (: 51:04

Okay, but is it not better to

Kelsie (: 51:04

Some elevator music.

Ashley (: 51:05

just be

working than to be listening to that?

Nicole (: 51:07

That's so funny.

That's funny though.

Kelsie (: 51:12

Some people will

go out of their way to, they'll do a lot of work to not work, you know what saying?

Nicole (: 51:16

That's

Ashley (: 51:16

That's

true. That's very true.

Nicole (: 51:16

true. That's so funny,

Monica (: 51:17

Mm-hmm. Yeah. This one

I'm just jealous of. Played organ trail with my coworkers competing to see who kept the most people alive. I don't know how they got away with that one, but I'm just jealous.

Ashley (: 51:26

Mwah.

That's like in the office when they play Call of Duty.

Monica (: 51:33

Right?

Ashley (: 51:35

I wish we did that in my office. Yeah.

Nicole (: 51:36

I just get everybody on board and then nobody can get in trouble.

Monica (: 51:39

Right?

⁓ YouTube team slash zoom meeting recordings, play them in my office with the door closed so it sounds like I'm in a meeting. City planning meetings are the best because they talk in numbers and acronyms.

Ashley (: 51:48

Thank

Kelsie (: 51:53

You

Nicole (: 51:53

That's amazing.

Ashley (: 51:53

my god.

Nicole (: 51:53

That's

some good stuff. Those are some really good ones. I would have never thought of that ever.

Monica (: 51:56

I know, I know.

Right? Or this

one, you guys will love this one. Had a lady who would call herself so her status was in a meeting, but she would really be watching Twilight on her phone and doing yoga.

Ashley (: 52:08

Mm-hmm

Nicole (: 52:12

⁓ I love the specific Twilight like she would be watching Twilight It's always Twilight why do we always come back here

Ashley (: 52:12

my god.

Yeah. Always. It's always Twilight.

Monica (: 52:19

Yeah, specifically Twilight. Yeah. Right.

Ashley (: 52:26

What else we got?

Kelsie (: 52:27

my unhinged is the, tell me that obviously it has to be really on brand with me right now, which is the craziest thing you did while you were pregnant. Some of these are like, I feel like maybe I need to turn up my crazy a little bit.

Ashley (: 52:35

Mmm.

Nicole (: 52:36

Hmm

Monica (: 52:44

being crazy enough.

Kelsie (: 52:45

Okay, so there was one comment I saw the other day and I can't find it again, but it's stuck in my brain, so I'll tell it to you. ⁓ She went grocery shopping at Walmart. She did self checkout. She scanned all the items in her cart, but she didn't pay. She walked out and as she was loading them in her trunk, ⁓ she saw like a cop and a Walmart employee coming towards her. And it was then that she realized she didn't pay. She scanned, she did all.

Ashley (: 53:09

my God.

Monica (: 53:14

⁓ no!

Kelsie (: 53:15

steps but she didn't pay. She

Nicole (: 53:16

She did all the things.

Kelsie (: 53:17

just scanned them all and then left.

Ashley (: 53:20

⁓ no.

Nicole (: 53:20

Hahaha!

Monica (: 53:20

It's

hilarious because it's like they're coming at her with a police officer, but it's like she told them exactly what she was walking out with. Do think she did that on purpose?

Kelsie (: 53:30

Yeah,

Nicole (: 53:30

You're right.

Kelsie (: 53:30

like she didn't go through all the actions of scanning and Yeah

Monica (: 53:33

I just want you to know what I'm stealing.

Nicole (: 53:35

Right.

Ashley (: 53:35

Yeah.

Kelsie (: 53:36

Yeah, she did say that she was lucky that she ended up actually knowing that cop.

Nicole (: 53:41

That's good. She got to explain everything like yeah

Monica (: 53:41

my God. I feel like that would be so easy to explain though and just be like, I'm

Kelsie (: 53:43

But I would have grown.

Monica (: 53:46

so sorry. Like, look at me. Like let me walk in and pay. Like I didn't do this on purpose.

Kelsie (: 53:46

Yeah. Yeah. Yeah.

Nicole (: 53:48

And they have cameras. They have cameras

everywhere. You can see and yeah, that's funny though.

Monica (: 53:56

I I did that once while I was pregnant. I had left something on the bottom of the cart and forgot to pay for it. I don't remember what it was. It was like a case of water or something. And I was like...

Nicole (: 54:01

I've done that not pregnant.

Kelsie (: 54:03

Yeah,

Ashley (: 54:03

Yeah.

Yeah.

Kelsie (: 54:05

yeah, I've definitely done that before She just did it with her whole car And she scanned them too. It's not like she overlooked them. She scanned them. She just forgot the important part of anyways

Nicole (: 54:05

I've done that not pregnant.

So funny. The poor woman.

Ashley (: 54:14

Yeah.

Kelsie (: 54:17

Not unhinged. I think this is a little bit unhinged. Cried because my fish was in water and he can't experience life outside of the water.

Ashley (: 54:25

Ha ha ha ha ha ha.

I don't think the fish is upset. It's fine, chick.

Kelsie (: 54:29

Yeah, I think the fish is okay with that. ⁓ I had an air bubble in my ice cream and I called Ben and Jerry's corporate sobbing. They sent me a gift basket full of tie-dyed Ben and Jerry baby stuff.

Ashley (: 54:39

you

I love that.

Kelsie (: 54:48

you

Nicole (: 54:48

my god.

Monica (: 54:49

There's

like the pregnant woman needs more ice cream. Just send her all this stuff.

Nicole (: 54:52

Clearly.

Kelsie (: 54:53

Anyways, I printed off divorce papers and started filing them, or not filing them, sorry that took it to another extreme. Filling them out. She didn't file them. She printed off divorce papers and started filling them out because her husband didn't get her Reese's. She never asked for Reese's.

Nicole (: 55:00

you

Ashley (: 55:01

Yes.

Nicole (: 55:12

This is you with the Dr. Pepper the other day. ⁓

Kelsie (: 55:14

It is. It is.

Ashley (: 55:15

Yeah

Monica (: 55:16

Yeah.

Kelsie (: 55:18

But that's what I'm saying, I could be so much more dramatic. I didn't print off divorce papers, that would have really leveled up my, my fit.

Nicole (: 55:24

You could it's in your arsenal now

Ashley (: 55:25

Keep that in your

Monica (: 55:26

Right?

Ashley (: 55:26

back pocket for next time.

Monica (: 55:26

Right?

Kelsie (: 55:28

This one. Found a maternity jumper that I didn't remember buying and accused him of cheating with another pregnant woman. I found the receipt for the jumper later on.

Ashley (: 55:35

Hahaha

⁓ That's hilarious.

Monica (: 55:43

I feel for her so bad because afterwards she probably is like, I'm so crazy.

Ashley (: 55:46

Yeah.

Nicole (: 55:48

Yeah, that's so fucking funny. my God. That's good.

Kelsie (: 55:49

Yeah.

There

are so many good ones on here.

Nicole (: 55:57

⁓ I found one that was like, I'm bored at tell me your most unhinged, ⁓ thing you or your tattoo artists said or did during your appointment. and I thought there was going to be way more in here. There's just a couple of good ones, but so like this one, this one was, which I can relate. is, ⁓ kicked the artist in the face while I was getting a foot tattoo and I get

Ashley (: 56:27

Mm-hmm.

Nicole (: 56:27

because

that was the very first tattoo I ever got was a foot one and I physically had to hold my leg down because it just kept like and so I can see I can see how that's a thing I can also see how that's probably more common than she thinks it is like I'm sure lots of tattoo artists have experience being kicked and some capacity or another

Monica (: 56:34

Yeah, I can see that one too.

Kelsie (: 56:37

Yeah.

Ashley (: 56:37

Mm-hmm.

Monica (: 56:43

Yeah.

Ashley (: 56:43

Yeah.

Kelsie (: 56:45

Yeah.

Ashley (: 56:46

Yes.

Monica (: 56:46

For real.

Nicole (: 56:50

⁓ then let's see. Let's see. Let's see. Let's see. This one is kind of really sad and like a little bit more traumatizing. It says my friend was 17 years old getting a tattoo, which why, if you're going to somebody who's willing to tattoo you at 17 without your parents there.

And I wouldn't think there is a parent around because this escalates pretty quickly. So my friend was 17 getting a tattoo down her spine. The older male artists didn't let her cover her breasts, kept telling her to put her hands down and didn't offer any privacy tape. He was checking her out in the mirror the whole time. She was traumatized on her birthday.

Monica (: 57:10

⁓

Ashley (: 57:14

Hmm.

Mmm.

Monica (: 57:24

Ugh.

Nicole (: 57:29

That's fucked. That's fucked. was literally her 17th birthday. Her parents were not there because I feel like that wouldn't happen if a parent was there. Not my parent, anyway. And like I said, if you're going somewhere where somebody's willing to tattoo you at 17 with no adult signature, they're probably not a stand-up person. And then this last one.

Kelsie (: 57:30

you

Monica (: 57:30

That is terrible.

Yeah.

Ashley (: 57:38

Yeah.

Monica (: 57:48

Mm-hmm. ⁓

Kelsie (: 57:50

Yeah, they're probably not a stand up.

Monica (: 57:52

Yeah.

Nicole (: 57:56

I was getting a random beach tattoo and I started dozing off and homeboy says, ooh, you like that, don't you? Which would have been fine if he didn't say it in a creepy way. Where do these people? It comes back to the audacity. Where do these people get the audacity to say shit like that? Why?

Monica (: 58:03

Ugh.

Kelsie (: 58:08

⁓

Monica (: 58:11

Yeah, seriously.

Kelsie (: 58:14

Well, let me just tell you because I have experienced this and I still have the messages to this day because

Monica (: 58:19

no.

Kelsie (: 58:24

I got a foot tattoo and I'm telling you, I went with my friend, we got matching foot tattoos. This guy did not try to tell me not to get this foot tattoo. He happily took my money, took, put the stencil on, never once advised me that

you know, he, you know, put tattoos sometimes don't stay. If he had advised me, I'm just a pushover. I probably would been like, okay, let's do it somewhere else. I'm a people pleaser. It's fine. But after like, it had been a few weeks at least, ⁓ I'd say it'd probably been long enough to heal even maybe like a month or a month and a half. And I messaged him.

And I said, one of the letters on my tattoo faded a lot. Can I get it touched up? And I'm not the person to like ever ask. I just suffer in silence, but this is like, it's just a letter. You know, he was very nice. So I asked, I sent a picture. He responded, see, that's why I hate tattooing feet, especially that low.

and then he did an old school sad emoji. Not like an emoji, a real emoji, but like a, know, like a colon and a per, yes, yes, he texted it. Yes, I feel like that's important to know the kind of person we're dealing with here.

Ashley (: 59:40

like made of the text. Woo.

Nicole (: 59:41

but like the colon with the...

Monica (: 59:44

The

punctuation kind.

Nicole (: 59:51

Okay, Boomer.

Kelsie (: 59:52

Hey, tattooing fee especially that low. I tell people for the last 30 years of tattooing this My opinions on why things don't work or not a good idea and no one ever listens You didn't say shit to me, bro

Nicole (: 1:00:06

He didn't.

You didn't, guy.

Kelsie (: 1:00:09

Give

it time to completely heal and I'll touch it up for you. Smiley face typed.

Ashley (: 1:00:16

Mm-hmm.

Kelsie (: 1:00:17

⁓ Next message right after. You were probably a bad girl and didn't listen to my aftercare instructions, huh? LOL. Someone needs a spanking.

Monica (: 1:00:28

Gross. So gross. So gross. Like totally fine until the spanking.

Ashley (: 1:00:28

Ugh, it's just so icky.

Kelsie (: 1:00:30

And so...

Nicole (: 1:00:32

Someone needs us spanking. Excuse

me? Even the bad girl is a little... that's... I don't know. Bad girl is a line for me. Don't call me a bad girl. You don't fucking know me, you creepy old man. Ugh!

Ashley (: 1:00:38

Even if he stopped at bad girl, I mean.

Monica (: 1:00:38

Bad girl's pushing it, but spanking is like...

Kelsie (: 1:00:45

Yeah.

Monica (: 1:00:48

Right?

Kelsie (: 1:00:49

Like

you're already taking a certain kind of route with that kind of language. Like you are probably a bad girl.

Monica (: 1:00:53

Yeah.

Ashley (: 1:00:54

Yeah. Yeah.

Nicole (: 1:00:54

Yeah, you're being high and mighty kind of a condescending

asshole. Don't Yeah, don't call me a bad girl.

Monica (: 1:00:58

Well, like that's what I'm saying is like, could be

just condescending, but not like super creepy, but then you add in the spanking and you're like, okay, no, now you're, now you're a creep. Now you're a creep.

Ashley (: 1:01:04

Creepy.

Nicole (: 1:01:05

It's slimy.

Ashley (: 1:01:07

Now it's both.

Yeah.

Kelsie (: 1:01:09

Yeah, either way it was like, it was already leaning on bad and then you added in the spanking like someone needs a spanking like no, you don't say that to adults. Okay, anyway, you don't say that to anybody else. Okay. Anyways, I said, I was contacting you professionally because I've really liked the work you've done for me. But that comment was very inappropriate. And I'm very uncomfortable with you saying that to me going forward. I will not be coming to you. And

Nicole (: 1:01:09

You're flying. Weird, weird wording.

Monica (: 1:01:12

Yeah. So gross.

Ashley (: 1:01:13

Ugh.

Nicole (: 1:01:17

I'll have my husband do it later, thanks.

Ashley (: 1:01:22

Ha ha ha.

Nicole (: 1:01:36

Yeah.

Monica (: 1:01:37

Set those boundaries,

Kelsey.

Kelsie (: 1:01:40

I

Nicole (: 1:01:40

Right?

Kelsie (: 1:01:40

mean,

this is: 2018

Monica (: 1:01:44

I know, you hate confrontation, so.

Ashley (: 1:01:46

Yeah, I'm surprised actually.

Nicole (: 1:01:50

was weird though, you should. ⁓

Monica (: 1:01:51

Yeah.

Ashley (: 1:01:55

That's bad. It's really bad.

Monica (: 1:01:56

Yeah.

Nicole (: 1:01:57

That is a whole different level of weird.

Kelsie (: 1:02:05

I'm from another era in time when being sarcastic or attempting to be funny wasn't taken so seriously. Again, I apologize for my poorly chosen words. And then like an hour later, he messages again, and he says, you know what, after rereading my interaction with you, I don't apologize. I meant nothing bad by it. It was harmless. I apologize. Like he took an hour to stew on it, you know.

Nicole (: 1:02:25

I

Ashley (: 1:02:27

Take it back, it takes it

Monica (: 1:02:29

Bye!

Nicole (: 1:02:30

Ha ha ha ha ha!

Ashley (: 1:02:31

It marinated.

Kelsie (: 1:02:32

It was he decided what first he was like I'm gonna be a responsible ⁓ Like business person and like not completely run this thing down the fucking tube. No, and then he was I never mind I'm gonna burn it down. He was like I Meant nothing bad by it was harmless this young generation of snowflakes whining every time they get their feelings hurt or something offends them is ridiculous

Monica (: 1:02:38

Yeah.

Ashley (: 1:02:40

Yeah.

Nicole (: 1:02:44

Fuck it.

Kelsie (: 1:02:57

I meant nothing by it and most people wouldn't have even thought to make an issue out of it. I am sorry you took something meant innocently and tongue in cheek so wrong. I will however arrange for a coworker to touch up your tattoo at my cost. I'm not coming back in there. I would never feel safe with anybody in there because you know that he probably read this to everybody in there.

Ashley (: 1:02:59

my god.

Monica (: 1:03:10

No.

Ashley (: 1:03:11

It's...

Nicole (: 1:03:12

anywhere near you!

Monica (: 1:03:17

Mm-hmm.

Nicole (: 1:03:18

And

don't give me the I'm from a different era. Yeah, yeah, yeah

Ashley (: 1:03:19

It's so misogynistic, it's crazy.

Monica (: 1:03:21

That's such bullshit. Yeah, like I'm from a different

Kelsie (: 1:03:22

Yeah.

Monica (: 1:03:24

era. So it's fine for me to treat you in this way. No, no, it's not. ⁓

Nicole (: 1:03:28

I'm from a

different era. Are you from the medieval times? What is this? Yeah, what? Are you from a different planet? The fuck?

Kelsie (: 1:03:30

It's fine to act like a pervert in your era? No.

Ashley (: 1:03:37

Thank ⁓

Kelsie (: 1:03:37

pretty and

like I, this sounds crazy cause I cry a lot, but in certain situations, like I have fairly thick skin. Like I don't take things, especially like flirting or like, like, you know, inappropriate jokes. Like I don't take them, you know, I'm not super offended by them, but like, this was not that.

Nicole (: 1:03:42

You

Yeah.

Also, he didn't straight up offend you.

He didn't say your tattoo choice was stupid, little girl. That would have been offensive. That would have been saying something that was offensive that you could get your titties in a twist about and like, you know what I mean? He didn't actually say anything offensive. He said something creepy. And that's the problem is you weren't offensive. You were fucking creepy.

Monica (: 1:04:05

Yeah.

Kelsie (: 1:04:05

Yeah.

Monica (: 1:04:14

Yeah, it was creepy.

Kelsie (: 1:04:16

Yeah

Monica (: 1:04:19

Well, and and so like

Kelsie (: 1:04:20

Yeah.

Monica (: 1:04:21

if he's saying like he's been doing it for like what you said, like 30 years and you're you were like how old at the time?

Nicole (: 1:04:24

30 years! ⁓

Kelsie (: 1:04:29

I mean 2018, I'm 31 now, so... In my 20s. Yeah, he was certainly older than me, yeah.

Monica (: 1:04:31

Yeah, so I mean, like, there's, there's a there's an age gap here, right? And now he's, yeah, and now he's making

Nicole (: 1:04:34

25, 24.

Ashley (: 1:04:36

Mm-hmm.

Monica (: 1:04:38

a comment about spanking, like, no, that's, that's inappropriate. That's not okay. ⁓

Nicole (: 1:04:41

That's fucking weird. You're old enough to be my dad.

Ashley (: 1:04:42

In what profession or is that,

yeah, are you allowed to say, like, say that to a customer? You know, like, oh, it doesn't matter what era you're from. Do you know how to be professional? What the fuck?

Kelsie (: 1:04:48

Yeah.

Nicole (: 1:04:49

Yeah, you know-

Monica (: 1:04:50

Right.

Nicole (: 1:04:53

In there's what in what profession other than like sex worker? Do you say that to a customer? Like? Where do you work guy? Do you have a side hustle I don't know about because that's not what that's not the kind of customer I am broken. Can you

Kelsie (: 1:04:54

Yeah.

Yeah, yeah.

Ashley (: 1:05:00

Yeah.

Monica (: 1:05:09

It's just so uncomfortable.

Ashley (: 1:05:09

The snowflake comment is

really the icing on the cake for me. I mean, I it's too much. Yeah, that that's the whole thing. The whole he goes back on it. Yeah, he's like, I was right. I stand on you need a spanking.

Monica (: 1:05:12

I know.

Nicole (: 1:05:15

I love the I don't apologize. Okay. Okay guys Never mind I take it back. I don't apologize. I'm in the right. Okay

Monica (: 1:05:18

Yeah. You know what I thought about this? Screw you!

Kelsie (: 1:05:23

Yeah.

Monica (: 1:05:28

You

Kelsie (: 1:05:28

He just really spiraled,

which I think is a testament to how, like, how fucked he knew he was. Because it's not like I was like, I'm going to write you a bad review. I'm burning this shit down. I'm going to tell the whole, like I live on a military base. I could have been like, I'm going to tell the whole, I'm to blast this on all the wife's pages. Like, no, all I said was like, I didn't like that comment. And I'm not, I'm nevermind. Like basically I don't want your help. Like, and he just is like spiraling.

Nicole (: 1:05:47

be returning to your establishment. Yeah. Yeah, He's literally

Monica (: 1:05:48

Right.

Nicole (: 1:05:55

spiraled over a 20 something year olds comment like ⁓ that's really funny. The only unhinged tattoo literally an hour later. No.

Kelsie (: 1:05:58

Yeah. Yeah.

Ashley (: 1:05:58

Mm-hmm.

Monica (: 1:06:00

That is wild. Yeah, I love that it was like an hour later though. Not even immediately. Not like a like an instant. No,

Ashley (: 1:06:05

Yeah.

Kelsie (: 1:06:05

Yeah.

Monica (: 1:06:08

actually I regret apologizing. He was bothered.

Nicole (: 1:06:11

Yeah.

Kelsie (: 1:06:11

No, like he

Ashley (: 1:06:11

No.

Nicole (: 1:06:12

tattoo I think I will be getting from a female because it's just weird. After reading some of those comments too, gonna go find a female artist. Yeah, truly.

Monica (: 1:06:18

Yeah.

Mm-hmm. Yeah.

Ashley (: 1:06:23

Alright, well we've yapped for long enough, so I think we better wrap this thing up until next week.

Monica (: 1:06:27

Yes,

until next week, stay bothered.

Nicole (: 1:06:31

Until next

time. Bye bitches!

Ashley (: 1:06:33

Stay bothered, till the next YAP session. Bye!

Monica (: 1:06:34

Yeah, make sure you like, save, subscribe,

share, whatever there is on social media and where you listen to your podcast. Do all the things. Help us out. Yeah.

Nicole (: 1:06:39

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Ashley (: 1:06:42

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Nicole (: 1:06:43

Do all the things, push all the buttons.

Okay, we love you, bye!

Ashley (: 1:06:46

Okay bye.

Monica (: 1:06:47

Bye. ⁓

Kelsie (: 1:06:47

Love

you.